Need advice on bullying letter from school

[Enduringmum]

My kid is 9 years old and is youngest in the class. We got a letter that he was involved in bullying a girl in school calling her fat. When I checked with him, he is saying the girl teased him for being thin and short, so he retorted that way. He thought that was done there but the girl has been rude to him multiple times touching him aggressively, pushing him. It seems the girl had similar issues with 2-3 other boys as well and she complained against all of them. The school took her words and issued a letter to all children noted. When I checked with school, there was no evidence checking and the children were not consulted. I accepted the letter and advised him to report such matters to either teacher or us and not resort to name calling himself. But I have this strong inner feeling I let my child down as well as he is persistent that the girl picked on him a lot and was the one started this episode.

Any advise from other mums would really appreciate as to what I should do.

you go back to the school and request a meeting with the person who wrote the letter, and tell them what you said above.

You tell your ds that name calling is never acceptable and reiterate in the meeting that you have had this conversation with him and you hope it's won't happen again. But that you're disappointed that the school took her word against several others. If you're friendly with parents of other children affected I would gently suggest to them that they do the same as you.

I think that's good advice - plus I'd tell your son that in future if someone is mean to him, maybe he could tell you too. Would avoid the same happening again and you could talk about better ways he could deal with it in school.

Your Son was right. He is being setup by this bully. There are many of them out there. They can be highly manipulative and very mean.

So as a parent let him know you trust him, love him and are on his side. Praise him publicly before his teachers and the school. Have him enroll and excel in some sports , at the gym, in public speaking, or arts that gets him stardom and helps his confidence.