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13 year old daughter being picked on

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CheekyLilacFish · 18/01/2025 13:53

Hello, I’m just after a bit of advice if possible, I’ll keep it brief. My daughter is currently in year 9 and pretty much from the beginning of year 8 a group of girls my daughter was friends with decided to turn against her. Started with whispering and laughing at her, throwing water over her, name calling, making anonymous social media profiles and posting stuff about her, turning other friends against her and just generally being bitches, now I don’t think my daughter is innocent and she has probably said stuff about them to the wrong people who have gone back and told these girls and I’ve told her just to keep her opinions to herself and ignore bitchy behaviour but she is quite sensitive and won’t stick up for herself. I have gone to the school on many occasions because she has called me in tears because so and so has done this that and the other. But since she has gone into year 9, most of that group of girls have left her alone apart from one and if I’m honest I’m fighting the urge to go to the school and give this little bitch what for but obviously being an adult I can’t do that. She has been on the waiting list to change schools but I’m sure you are all aware that there are shortage of spaces. What else can I do regarding this situation as I feel the school aren’t particularly doing much about it. Sorry for the long post! Thanks

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xmasdealhunter · 18/01/2025 16:11

I'm sorry that's happening to your DD. Is this girl in her class? Would it be possible to move her to another class until she is able to move schools? If not, I would be emailing each teacher she had to ask them to please keep an eye and not pair them up/keep this other girl away from her.
Are there any other schools you could apply to move her to that are slightly out of area?

MissyB1 · 18/01/2025 16:15

Ask for a face to face meeting with the safeguarding lead and the pastoral lead. Take evidence with you of all your previous communications with the school about this. Also download a copy of their anti bullying policy to take with you. Ask them exactly how they are going to stop the bullying and keep your dd safe. Time to get serious about this.

Meadowfinch · 18/01/2025 16:18

MissyB1 · 18/01/2025 16:15

Ask for a face to face meeting with the safeguarding lead and the pastoral lead. Take evidence with you of all your previous communications with the school about this. Also download a copy of their anti bullying policy to take with you. Ask them exactly how they are going to stop the bullying and keep your dd safe. Time to get serious about this.

This. And report every incident verbally and in writing. Make sure there is a record so the staff know you are not going to let it drop and, if your daughter comes to any harm, they cannot claim they didn't know. Don't give in.

CheekyLilacFish · 18/01/2025 16:45

She was in her class but the school moved my daughter to a different tutor group so her lessons aren’t the same as the other girls anymore, doesn’t stop her seeking my daughter out at break/lunch. The school have given this girl sanctions, isolation, detention & even spoken to her mother but it is still happening. I looked on the vacancies list last night and there is no spaces whatsoever in any of the schools in my area or slightly out

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MissyB1 · 18/01/2025 18:03

So go back to the school and tell them it hasn’t stopped and you want it addressed again, tell them you will be back in to see them every single time that girl approaches your dd.

xmasdealhunter · 18/01/2025 18:18

MissyB1 · 18/01/2025 18:03

So go back to the school and tell them it hasn’t stopped and you want it addressed again, tell them you will be back in to see them every single time that girl approaches your dd.

This. The school have a safeguarding duty to protect your DD, which they aren't currently doing.

CheekyLilacFish · 18/01/2025 19:39

Okay thank you, I will get back on to them again on Monday

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Mossey55 · 27/04/2025 01:04

Tell the school head if they don’t sort it once and for all you will Call ofsted and report it.

it’s a safeguarding issue and ofsted will go in to the school to carry out an inspection

the last thing any school wants is an ofsted visit

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