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BEING BULLIED BY A SO CALLED FRIEND

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BoldPombear · 31/12/2024 11:21

I have (had) an on off friend who I lose touch with and then somehow we end up getting in touch again. They had started asking me to lend them money, usually the same sort of amount on the same day and at the same time every week. It began with them telling me their electric was about to run out and they had no money to top it up. Then the next week no money for food. The first couple of times I did it but then it continued with taxis, child's sports club subs..... They paid me back first thing the next day which was odd as these requests were coming in the evening and in a demanding manner - "I need it by 8 o'clock, please transfer". I only did this three times but then started to feel something was off - I stopped doing it. Recently it has started again (we lost touch for a year). They tricked me into paying for something (which I never asked for but stupidly agreed to) and never received it and these demands for money started again, increasing amounts each time item but in a more aggressive manner and emotionally blackmailing me when I challenged them. I eventually had some proof they had been lying to me so I immediately blocked them. This person has since contacted me through different numbers which I have also blocked, horrible messages demanding to speak to my husband and telling me he will leave me if I don't pay them etc. Reading this now I feel a fool as it is so obvious what's been going on but the silly thing is I really believed they were my friend. I am quite vulnerable. I am care for my daughter who has complex needs, I am ND myself and at a time when I felt very lonely and isolated this person came back on the scene and I welcomed them in. I don't realise when someone isn't genuine, despite past history. Why am I typing this post? I suppose I want to know if this kind of thing has happened to anyone else. I cannot get my head round this person being a kind friend to me and then behaving like that. I still wonder if I have it wrong. I feel guilty for thinking bad of them and frightened at the same time.

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Flipslop · 31/12/2024 11:26

Oh lovely I’m so sorry you’ve been taken advantage of.
i would actually contact the police as this is harassment and blackmail and should put a stop to the contact xx

Flipslop · 31/12/2024 11:27

Flipslop · 31/12/2024 11:26

Oh lovely I’m so sorry you’ve been taken advantage of.
i would actually contact the police as this is harassment and blackmail and should put a stop to the contact xx

Also, she will very likely be doing this to others. Someone needs to put a stop to it

Blueglazzier · 31/12/2024 11:28

This person is not a friend . This person is a user . A friend is someone who walks beside you and offers support . Walk away . Stop doing this to yourself.

HPandthelastwish · 31/12/2024 11:28

You know it's not right. The friendship doesn't make you happy so like a romantic relationship it is time to leave it behind.

If she keeps getting different numbers to harass you then it is time to change your number

ShortyShorts · 31/12/2024 11:29

This person has since contacted me through different numbers which I have also blocked, horrible messages demanding to speak to my husband and telling me he will leave me if I don't pay them etc.

This (and a few other things you've said) is definitely grounds to report to police.

Do it.

Baileysatchristmas · 31/12/2024 11:29

Please go to the police xxxx

MoonWoman69 · 31/12/2024 11:31

Why would she threaten you with contacting your husband? Have you told him what's going on?
To be honest, she sounds absolutely unhinged. And you are under no obligation at all to either lend her money or have her in your life.
Block absolutely every avenue that she can contact you on and don't give it another thought. She's seen a chance to pick on someone vulnerable and that isn't being a friend at all, she's an abuser.
You're better off without that in your life.
Good luck hon 💐

Jeschara · 01/01/2025 12:43

This person is more than a user, a criminal in fact. Demanding money with menaces. Call the Police this vile creature needs to be stopped.

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