Hello!
looking for some help or advice!
since Y3 my son has had some issues with another boy and we’ve said ignore etc. we’ve been into school and the teacher agreed and said he’d caught the other kid being a bit nasty to my son and would sort it out and eventually it evened out and he just played with others and took no notice.
this year back at school it has been constant conversations with my son at pick up time that he wasn’t allowed to play with this other boy and he took his friends and mean comments about his appearance etc. in the end I emailed the teacher who rang me and said she’d spoken to both and would monitor the situation.
roll forward 3 hours and the mum of the other boys messaged me to say
Hi K, hope you don’t mind but just wanted to text as a bit concerned that H has come home tonight having been pulled out of class by Mrs X. Apparently he’s been being mean to A.
I’m aware that there are two sides to every story but there have been a number of incidents that have been reported back to me by H recently that concern me. We’ve tried to calm it down and think it’s boys just being boys but at karate last Monday(not this week) I did witness A deliberately trip H up in the warm up. A then saw that I had seen this and quickly looked away.
On the back of this I advised H to simply not play with A at lunch etc so it could calm down and now he’s told Mrs X that H won’t let him play.
I think they probably just need their space and don’t want to fall out over it but just wanted you to be fully aware. X
I was proper taken aback! If things were as she explains why didn’t the go into the school like I did? Im not blind, my child isn’t perfect but I don’t believe for one minute he’s being mean to this kid - they used to be friends.
it ended up a back and forth conversation where basically she fully believes my son is the issue and doesn’t consider that her son to be unkind in anyway and therefore wants my son to leave him alone.
the problem is they all have the same friends so she said well just tell A not to play with them and I’ve said how is that fair - they need to be treated the same.
im really upset about it and don’t know what to do. Not sure who I can trust at the school over to mull it over. And I’ve been raising issues with her son for over a year with the teacher. Never would I have told her directly because it’s for the school to deal with in my eyes. I know my son isn’t a bully but I hate the fact she’s portraying him as one.