Bullied by my sis in law

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Hello, I am Asian British living with in-laws. Me and my sister in law were good friends and shared our pain of living with in laws, however she has exposed me to the family inc all the horrible things I said. There has been a massive argument where it was all against me, I understand my mistake and apologised. However mentally I cannot move on from it, I wake up in sweats and it has massively affected my mental health and how I take care of my baby. I have asked to see a counsellor but the waiting game is taking ages, I cannot cope. Horrible words and things were said to me and I just can’t get over it :(

Can you move out and distance yourself from seeing her

Where is your husband / partner in all of this ? Can you talk to them ?

Whats done is done.

Hold your head up high.
Learn the lessons from this issue to play the game better going forwards.
Your SIL was never going to be your friend, you should have known that.

Positive steps for the future eg moving out if possible, building your career.

Most importantly, is your husband on your side?
Yes - make it work.
No - make plans to leave.

I'm sorry you're going through this. What does your husband say about it? is it your husband's sister, or his sister in law that's betrayed your trust?

Will you be able to move into your own home at some point soon?

Where is your husband? Is there an option to move out of the property? I have a horrible SIL too op, I feel your pain. I don’t live with her though but she is prone to texting abuse whenever she feels like it. She thinks she’s superior to everyone.

My husband says to ignore her as I am anyways we she won’t talk to me when she hurt me. My husband doesn’t want to move out because of financial issues. He’s a mummy’s boy

I feel so stupid to have ever trusted her as we both confided in each other

It's survival of the fittest when living with the inlaws. Be aware of the bitch. She's shown you what she is capable of

Can’t stand her face or present we completely avoid each other

I’m so glad you don’t live with her sadly I have to and my husband doesn’t want to move out end user of financial issues no matter how many times I argue

Plant a seed in your husbands mind about increasing the family fortunes eg by buying another property even if its a studio and renting it out.

Then as time goes on, you can then suggest moving in there.

No matter what happens, always keep your finances separate and under report your income to others. Build up your own nest egg.

Know your islamic and legal rights.

Not Asian but Arab so understand the cultural dynamics.

In situations like this, one of you needs to move out. As it’s her parents’ home (unless you mean BIL’s wife?), it has to be you and your husband. Your husband needs to prioritise your marriage and if he refuses to do so, can you go and stay at your parents? You shouldn’t be living in such a toxic environment.

It’s brothers wife sadly. I want to move out and he won’t listen