My daughter has been bullied for 3 years

[RosieProbert]

My 14 year old daughter has been bullied for about 3 years by the same people I have talked to the teachers but no one has done anything.Any suggestions on what I should do? She comes home crying some days and I am scared I ma going to lose her.

Move schools.
If school hasn't sorted it in 3 years then they aren't going to.

Unless by moving to y10 she is going to be in entirely separate classes? Depends when/how the bullying occurs.

Move schools. If they're bullying her via phone, put safeguards on the phone to block the apps.

Move schools asap

Another one saying move schools. The bullies won’t stop and the school won’t do anything. You’re right to be worried - kids commit suicide due to this sort of abuse and feeling they can’t escape except by ending it.

Why have you let this continue for 3 years?

She definitely needs to move schools. I missed a year of school between year 7-8 because of bullying. The damage has stayed with me permanently. Moving schools was the only thing that worked and I wish my Mum had done it sooner for me.

Move her and if you can afford it, get her some private counselling

What action did the teachers say they would take? What form does the bullying take - is it face to face, verbal, physical, online/cyber? Do you have screenshots for evidence? Have you followed the school's policy on bullying and held the school to it?

Is she talking about it much op? What does she want to do, does she want to stay or leave? Does she have an ok home environment or does it follow her home either through sm or in the area? Talk to her, talk to the school again, threaten to escalate. Hope you’re all ok soon x

Move schools. I am someone who says you need to face up to bullies and you need to stick up for yourself but after three years it's time for you to take action.

Move schools now

I suffered a few months of bullying at school and my (usually awful) parents let me move to another school for a fresh start. Move her, home school... anything but making her endure the bullying year after year!

Move schools now. Do not let her endure another day of bullying.

Hi @RosieProbert, oh your poor DD. Like your daughter i was in these shoes too as a child. it is understandably a very traumatic time for her. in terms of advice, I can offer this:

1. Email/phonecall the pastoral support person or deputy head at her school to report the bullying. Otherwise, is there someone she has a genuine professional relationship with in school that she can confide in about the bullying?

2. Consider having a chat with DD/ asking if she will chat with someone she trusts to find out what is being said/done to her.

3. if it is social media based bullying, encourage her to report it as harrassment/bullying on the app itself and not to delete the message.

4. encourage her to keep a diary if she is struggling to express how she feels.

5. make clear to her that there will be an end to the pain of bullying, even if she has to uproot home/school.

important to consider:
> is there a reason for the bullying?
> is it always the same people/person dishing it out?
> How long has it been happening?
> Think about other ways you can respond to bullying
> Find out what your DD wants to happen

Best Wishes

I moved my DC schools. They thrived. Made new friends. Reached the goals they set themselves. Happily at Uni now.