Ex husbands new girlfriend stalking me?

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I have suspicions that my ex husband’s girlfriend is stalking me going to my boyfriends and to work. They have no reason to know where my current boyfriend lives, however my ex husband pointed out to my children that they knew that he lived on the street he does. I felt like someone was watching me the other night going to the shop then the next day my children told me that.

she has always tried causing issues between me and my ex husband regarding the children ( he has them for me to be able to work, 3/4 days a week) she has told him that he should only have them once or twice a week, like normal dads. Which caused an argument between me and my ex husband because I have to work to provide for my children. He pays no maintenance at all and doesn’t work. She has said there’s no reason I should be staying at my boyfriends during those 3 days and he should only have them during my working hours. She has said that I need to cut my hours because it’s not fair on their life.

I feel that I can’t go out to my boyfriend because she has someone watching me. Sending my anxiety through the roof. I will now only go out if I have my children with me.

Am I being unreasonable about approaching the subject with my ex husband? i dont feel comfortable sending messages because i know hell only screenshot them and send them to her.

Any advice on what I can do? Thank you

How do you know she’s said all that, did she say it to you, or did he tell you?

I’ve had it in messages from her and he’s told me.

Did you start two threads on this?

I’m not sure, one said didn’t work? I’ll have look. Thanks

More likely he's told her he only wants the kids two days and its 'so unfair' and she's just parroting him.

Also more likely he is the one stalking you.
Check your car for bugs.

Tell him he can take the 2 days but you will be pushing child maintenance. He'll soon uturn on wanting them less.

'With all due respect Sandra, I'd appreciate only dealing with John on matters regarding the children. Whilst I understand it must be difficult wanting to support your partner, John is their father and has equal responsibility in caring for them. And yet he doesn't pay for them and you think he should...have them less? Sorry but, no. Please do not encourage this frankly, mysoginistic mindset that parenting is solely the womans responsibility. If he wants them less, then he can pay child support. This is the last time I will speak with you about these matters. I ask that you now withdraw from commenting on what I should and shouldn't do as a mum any further, with respect, anna'.

Ps: this man is playing you off against eachother.

'I'm not interested in your partners opinions, thanks', in future.

Do not respond to anything irrelevant like what you do in your spare time or your partner. Only respond to kid stuff (relevant things like pick up times etc) not goady bs.

I did say to him last week, that i don’t think that her opinion is relevant and she can continue to message me but I won’t be replying to anything she has said.

I think the advice you got on your other thread probably answered your question adequately well.
Get a proper schedule of 50/50 set up, stick to it.

Could even be him texting you pretending to be her btw.

Just block 'her' number.

How on earth does he support himself? He's able bodied and of sound-ish mind but just chooses to doss about all day? What a charmer.
She should be telling the lazy fucker to get a job. But honestly, just block her. If he mentions her just say I'm not interested. And shut down the convo.

Great advice

He doesn't know your Google password does he? According to your settings he could be tracking all your movements through the Google Maps app. I've heard of that happening to a few people.

She sounds like a bitxh, although it doesn't sound like stalking.

Hes not working so she won't get any maintenance

I don't think she can actually be following you? How do you get to your boyfriends house? walk or drive? Surely you'd see her following you. And I'm assuming you go to your boyfriend when the kids are with their dad so is she not with them also?

How do they know you have a boyfriend anyway?

Stop communicating with her. Tell her to stop messaging you or you shall report her to the authorities and do it. Talk to your ex only about the children. Don't let him wind you up!

Wow, this sounds a lot like my partner's ex-wife. She was stalking my socials, even some how knew my childcare arrangements with my ex and made out my partner was trying to be "dad" to my kids. Even 2 1/2 years in he literally spends probably 4 hours max with mine a week when he has his, doesn't really interact with mine otherwise (which is a separate issue for me) however his ex-wife would demand to meet me and did, I did it out of respect for him as she was stalking him before we got together.
Even now comments on my posts, she said she didn't want them on my socials but allowed her partner that privilege. I thought she would be happy now she lives in a mini mansion but hell nah, still being a collosal ahole.
Only reason I don't react is for my partner and his kids.
He will be ultimately telling some sob story though for his current partner to be as weird as she is. You are allowed a life, go be with your boyfriend. When you don't have your kids, you are free to do as you please. Log it all with the police, regarding the unwanted messaging.

Unfortunately he will pay hardly anything if not working and on benefits (he probably knows this too) unless he has some hidden fortune.

I think you carry on as you were. None of her business!

And I would say the say in any text message.

Don't respond to her messages - why does she even have your number?
Hide her or block her. Same for social media.
Only contact your ex regarding the children.
Change your passwords in case she or he has a way of tracking you - Snapchat for example? You can hide your location, but if you haven't disabled that function she/he could add you and see where you are on the mapping function.
Your ex is no doubt spinning her a load of bollocks.

I agree with others, she has no right to tell you how to live your life. Block her on everything possible and him, only let him message you by text. Turn location off on everything. Also your kids could be inadvertantly saying stuff about what you get up to etc, you didn't say how old they are but even a 3 year old could tell them stuff if probed I'm sure. If they are old enough to understand then maybe tell them if dad or girlfriend ask them anything about you then get them to say that they are not answering questions about your personal life.

I think communication about your kids is should be between you and your ex if she isn’t prepared to be cordial in direct messages to you.

Ultimately even if you do raise it you might not get the outcome you want and it’s energy wasted.

Even if they are randomly stalking you to your boyfriends it’s a waste of their time and they really aren’t going achieve anything by doing it.

Ride it out, it will pass it’s just silly games and not worth rising to.

I’d got further and say you will report them to the police if they don’t stop keeping tabs on you (stalking)

I would not stop having a boyfriend or a life because the g.f had an issue with you .
she resents you having a life while they have your kids .
This isn’t how it is . It’s there dad having his kids but her brain isn’t big enough to understand being a parent .

This would be such a turn off for me if I was a man and my new partner wanted me to ditch my children . I know who I would ditch.

oh next time you go to your boyfriends I’d dress up carry a bottle of champagne in my hand , and skip down the street .

Why do women like this get into relationships with men that have children? it baffles me because they clearly can't stand the fact that the children exist !
Absolute nutters the lot of them and the blokes that allow it are spineless creatures