Getting fed up of my child getting hit

[HannahT10]

My son is 4 and every day he's coming out saying so and so hit me, so and so spat at me. I am beyond tired of these kids doing this. There's never any repercussions from staff either. My child is a kind, well behaved kid. But as soon as he's been subjected to that all day he's argumentative and cries. I feel like pulling him out. Clearly no repercussions for these kids at home either. Will only get worse as they get older.

There's a short and a long answer...
Short one - is another school an option?
Longer - how long has this been going on for? If he's only 4, presumably not very long. Complain to teacher/escalate to head of year/escalate to Head, look at schools own policies around behaviour and see if they're following them, write to Governors if you get nowhere.
Kids are going to experience a degree of rough behaviour at school but persistent and targeted behaviour is not ok.

Is this Reception or pre school?
Not that it matters-your child has the right to enjoy his day without being thumped by another child. But if pre school he may escape come September

I said there's no repercussions from staff meaning I've spoken to staff and I get fobbed off. They say the usual generic answer if we see it we'll sort it. I went past last week on my lunch break to see my son repeatedly punched, a teacher look and watch then turn away to continue chatting. At pick up I was told nothing.

Have you escalated this formally in writing as a complaint?

You need to keep a record of the incident and the impact on your child. I wrote a letter to the head outlining the incident, the impact on my child and my concern about my child's emotional wellbeing. I quoted the schools bullying policy and every child matters agenda

Its main aims are for every child, whatever their background or circumstances, to have the support they need to:

1. Be healthy
2. Stay safe
3. Enjoy and achieve
4. Make a positive contribution
5. Achieve economic well-being

They actually got an additional TA for the classroom following my complaint. Although, my child was injured several times.

You need to fight to advocate for your child.

Also, in you can afford to put them in martial arts then do. It's good for building confidence. It's also a bit of a deterrent as he gets older.

You need to teach your child to hit them back. It’s not an action the school will support - me neither. But this is what we did with our DS and it worked.

My DH insisted on this approach, after my DS was coming home with multiple injuries. I was very against it, but actually my DH been proven right. It (sadly) worked, the kids who hit leave him well alone now.

My DS would never hit a child unprovoked. My DH has never hit anyone in adulthood, so my DS knows it’s not acceptable to use violence except in the rare case of self defence.

Yeah I would have said that too before my child was coming home with black eyes and there was nothing the school could do to stop it because they don’t have enough staff. I’ve changed my mind now and think that self defence is acceptable.

We had this with our son. We moved him school and he is thriving.
You wouldn't go into work everyday and put up with being hit and our children shouldn't have to.
If the school aren't helpful then honestly I'd move him.

Is this a state school?

Record your observations your child being hurt. On....date/time, I saw....
Record what your child is telling you after school.

Email the school, copy in the governors. State what you would like as a n outcome and a time frame.

I am not prepared to accept this and it must stop immedicately.
If am prepared to escalate this but will wait......days....and hope it will be satisfactory concluded.

My child’s school is not shite! It’s a great school but they have a massive staff shortage and high level of need. We are also in the most underfunded local authority in England!

I didn’t agree with this at all. Until DD started school and two school mum’s (both teachers) said it’s the only way to stop it.
I would also encourage something like gymnastics which builds strength and muscle or martial arts.