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My daughter was harrased/assaulted

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PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 04:33

Hello, my daughter was cornered in the school corridor as some girls thought she had been talking about main bully being told off by teacher for wearing too much blusher...sounds ridiculous I know! So a group of girls cornered her, main bully and main tag along of bully start to shout in her face, "are you thick? Are you stupid? Are you dumb?" To which my daughter responds, "I don't know you girls and don't know what you are talking about, leave me alone!" Main bully blocks my daughters path with her arm right by her face and my daughter pushes it away. Main bully gets madder and says "Don't touch me!" My daughter responds with, "Don't touch me either! " and then walks away...the main bully rushes beind her and pushes my daughter with force onto the stairs, my daughter falls down some steps and manages to save herself by clinging onto the railing. She goes to head of year and explains the above, they keep her in isolation as my daughter does not feel safe around the bullies. After school finishes, they intimidate her and say " there she is, that whore, that snitch!" The head of year is approached by a friend and he explains he will walk my daughter to bus stop. The bullies are then heard saying that they will get her tomorrow. I only find this information out from my daughter after her school day had ended from her! This incident happened straight after lunch.
When I spoke to the school, they said all above is clear in their cctv and is correct, although main bully and main tag along said they pushed my daughter as she pushed them but is clear in cctv she moved arm away as main bully blocked her way and then went to push her down the stairs.

School have moved main bully to another school for 2 days and other girls just spoken too, their parents haven't even been informed. Does this seem fair? My daughter could've been severely hurt if she wasn't able to hold to stair rail and isn't herself regarding school anymore, she does not feel safe in a place she was so happy in a apart of a community. Is this fair? Shouldn't school be able to give a permanent exclusion?

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Fraaahnces · 25/06/2024 04:42

In this kind of situation the only thing that ever (kind of) works is to call the police. These girls are over the age of adult responsibility and they pushed your daughter on the stairs.

malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 04:47

It would be illegal to give a permanent exclusion for that

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 04:58

malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 04:47

It would be illegal to give a permanent exclusion for that

But the main bully assaulted her? And the sanction given is also the same sanction one of the bullies friends had not too long ago and doesn't change anything. Should schools really wait until a person is pushed to cause brain damage or until one of these bullies stab a person?
They have taken my daughters peace away from her school environment which is unfair and no real consequences after as all the girls still give my daughter and even myself now when collecting her dirty looks and also comments towards my daughter.

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malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 04:59

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 04:58

But the main bully assaulted her? And the sanction given is also the same sanction one of the bullies friends had not too long ago and doesn't change anything. Should schools really wait until a person is pushed to cause brain damage or until one of these bullies stab a person?
They have taken my daughters peace away from her school environment which is unfair and no real consequences after as all the girls still give my daughter and even myself now when collecting her dirty looks and also comments towards my daughter.

It is not an option available to the school

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 05:00

Fraaahnces · 25/06/2024 04:42

In this kind of situation the only thing that ever (kind of) works is to call the police. These girls are over the age of adult responsibility and they pushed your daughter on the stairs.

Thank you. When and how should i go about involving the police? A meeting is organised with head teacher.

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78Summer · 25/06/2024 05:26

I would inform the school you are reporting it to the police as you are concerned for your daughter’s safety as they have made further threats, then report it via calling 111. It is an assault and needs to be dealt with as such.

themidimit · 25/06/2024 06:07

malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 04:47

It would be illegal to give a permanent exclusion for that

This is correct. The school cannot issue a permanent exclusion here.

malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 07:26

themidimit · 25/06/2024 06:07

This is correct. The school cannot issue a permanent exclusion here.

and also, you really wouldn't want it to. Rather than a school incident which can be resolved and healed, and over written with a myriad of other school events, your child gets an outside enemy, with a real, permanent grudge who could be in her local community in 50 or 60 years time

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 11:18

malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 07:26

and also, you really wouldn't want it to. Rather than a school incident which can be resolved and healed, and over written with a myriad of other school events, your child gets an outside enemy, with a real, permanent grudge who could be in her local community in 50 or 60 years time

This is why and how thugs are made, first to have the nerve to do it and then no consequences.

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malachitegreen · 25/06/2024 11:19

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 11:18

This is why and how thugs are made, first to have the nerve to do it and then no consequences.

where did I advice no consequences?

PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 11:59

Not that you advised is just the reality and it's sad. My daughter isn't the sane because bullies do these things and know there are no consequences for them.

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PunnyKoala · 25/06/2024 16:11

78Summer · 25/06/2024 05:26

I would inform the school you are reporting it to the police as you are concerned for your daughter’s safety as they have made further threats, then report it via calling 111. It is an assault and needs to be dealt with as such.

Has anyone in a similar situation done this before on here? Was there any outcome?

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ithinkilikethislittlelife · 25/06/2024 16:17

I had an incident recently with my Ds who was bullied physically by a fellow pupil and I contacted the police. I rang 101 and logged it with them. They went to the school and got names and addresses and then went to the pupils involved homes and spoke to the pupils and their parents. It was an assault and I treated it as such. It also showed my child I had their back.

Fraaahnces · 29/06/2024 12:19

Have the meeting and if you are not satisfied that your daughter is safe then go immediately to the police.

Sandwichgen · 29/06/2024 12:22

Try to make sure the e CCTV isn't overwritten or deleted. Tell the school you want it available for the police

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