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Daughter being bullied by her best friend?

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Magpie7225 · 17/06/2024 20:02

My daughter is in year 1 and has had the same best friend since nursery. This friend is a lot more out going, and it seems dominant than my daughter is. However, over the years I’ve got to know her and her mum.
The 2 of them made friends at school with another girl and for a while it seemed like they were playing nicely as a 3. Recently, I think my daughter’s long standing friend had been feeling left out, and I know my daughter was trying to make her feel included but ended up feeling caught up between the 2. However, it seems like her friend is now using this to bully her. My daughter has come home very upset several days in a row, and last week I messaged her teacher to ask her to keep an eye on her. Tonight she has come home and said that her friend created a game with a group of other girls where they had to “investigate” my daughter and every time she came close they all ran away. She’s also driven my daughter’s other friend away, has been putting her down, telling her she’s not playing “good enough” and that all this is her fault. My daughter tried very hard to make everyone like her and hates doing anything wrong. Should I speak to her friends parents? Do I ask for a meeting with the teacher? I don’t want to make it worse for her but it’s heartbreaking seeing this happen to her.

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Hiddenvoice · 18/06/2024 06:39

Aww this sounds so sad for your dd. I think it’s probably best that your dd distanced herself from that friend. It seems like they’ve just not got much in common anymore.
Sadly trio friendships can be very difficult as there’s usually one person whose left out and then the following year the trio changes it up a bit and a different person is left out.
As a teacher I usually encourage them to become a foursome instead.

Personally no, I wouldn’t contact the parents. This is happening in school therefore I would contact the class teacher and let her know what’s happening in the playground. I would also encourage your dd to tell the teacher straight after break so it can be dealt with quickly.

hopscotcher · 18/06/2024 06:44

Maybe have a word with the teacher and ask them to keep an eye out for anything troubling. Hopefully your daughter will make other friends and not need this one in time.

Jennybeans401 · 20/06/2024 22:24

My middle dd experienced a very bossy and controlling girl like this and it got worse as they got older. I'd nip it on the bud as soon as you can.

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