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Suicidal ideation from 11 year old.

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MM1972 · 17/06/2024 06:38

One of my sons has been excluded from his friend group that he had from P1 through to mid way of P7.

He did very well in his transfer test, much better than his friends and the exclusion appeared to start after the results were released. The transfer test is still a thing in Northern Ireland.

Luckily he will have new start in grammar school in September. None of his 'friends' are going to the same school.

The boy who started this has a mother who teaches at the school and will be a vice principal from September. My partner did discuss the bullying with her but she said she's spoken to her son and he'd denied it. Case dropped.

Previously they'd been to sleepovers in each others homes. The first sign of exclusion was when our son was the only one not invited to this boys birthday.

it has been a horrible few months for our son culminating with him saying 'there is no point in me going on'.

My sons former best friend left the school over a year ago. This was due to bullying (from a different boy as far as we know). This boys mother had raised concerns with the school but felt she was dismissed.

i feel like writing to the board of governors. I don't think school management will do anything. My youngest daughter will still be at the school for a further 2 years.

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stayathomer · 17/06/2024 06:41

How long does he have until summer holidays? I’m so sorry op, that sounds awful. Tell him that things will change and he’ll be away from those boys after this year, also remind him of all the fab things in life. Does he have hollies/ interests? Can he join anything? Does he have eg cousins he can meet with more?

Soontobe60 · 17/06/2024 06:43

Unfortunately your DS is of the age where friendship groups change, particularly if they are going to be moving to different secondary schools. Children can’t be made to be friends with someone for ever, and they can’t be made to invite everyone to their party. This doesn’t indicate bullying.

Beefcurtains79 · 17/06/2024 06:45

Sickness until summer break? Fuck letting him be bullied.

MM1972 · 17/06/2024 06:48

Soontobe60 · 17/06/2024 06:43

Unfortunately your DS is of the age where friendship groups change, particularly if they are going to be moving to different secondary schools. Children can’t be made to be friends with someone for ever, and they can’t be made to invite everyone to their party. This doesn’t indicate bullying.

i get that friends change. Sometimes they drift apart. This was very abrupt and went from being friends to them telling him to 'shut up' and letting him know he has no friends any time he tries to speak with them.

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MM1972 · 17/06/2024 06:50

Beefcurtains79 · 17/06/2024 06:45

Sickness until summer break? Fuck letting him be bullied.

He chats with boys from the other P7 class now. I watched his interactions on sports day. It was as if he didn't exist to his former friends. They ignored him and he ignored them.

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Picoloangel · 17/06/2024 07:00

Excluding is bullying. School is a huge part of life for kids and it’s miserable when they are having issues in their friendship group. They sound like horrible kids to be honest and it’s disappointing that the school and the parent have been so rubbish.

He has a few weeks left of Y6 presumably - I would be considering taking him out of school at this point and I would definitely write to the Governors. The school have a duty of care and they are not fulfilling their obligations.

What a horrible end to Y6 - I don’t know what it’s like in NI but for DC after SATS it was about 2 months of just having fun and getting ready for Y7.
At least he won’t be going to school with them going forward.

Beefcurtains79 · 06/07/2024 10:50

Hope your boy is ok, not long until Summer Holidays now x

ACreamyTeaPlease · 06/07/2024 10:55

Is he still at school? All our NI family broke up this week. Just keep him away from them over the summer but watch it doesn't move to bullying messages/social media etc

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