Hello all,
My boy is 4 years old and goes to a small village school. There is one other boy in his class (the only other boy his age in the village).
Outside of school their playtime often ends with the other boy hitting or pushing my boy, or pulling his clothes, even grabbing him around the neck.
His mum always tells him it's not ok but when we discuss it, she says 'it's just kids being kids' and refers to the fact that her son is 'impulsive' and my son winds him up so he reacts.
My boy doesn't want to go to school and when i had a meeting with the teacher and headteacher, they said i should work on the relationship outside of school and that nothing happens in school.
Another mum (there are 5 kids at this school) told me yesterday that her daughter has said more than once that at playtime she has had to help my son because the other boy was grabbing him around the neck or hitting him.
i feel angry that the teachers either lied to me or don't watch the break time properly.
I don't know what to do but we're considering leaving the village and moving anyway and I feel like this might be the nail in the coffin for our son at the school.
there's a risk it'll close with one more child leaving, but i know that this isn't my responsibility.
some context is that the boy is 10 months older than my son, so has just turned 5 and my son turned 4 in march. I'm not sure if what i describe is considered bullying, or in kids so young, but it is certainly a one way thing and my son ends up crying and telling me that he doesn't want to go to school because the other boy does things that he doesn't like.
what should i do?? hope that things get better or make the decision that this school isn't right for my son, based on:
a) the lack of children ( i think a class of 2 boys is not good for his social development or much fun!)
b) the lack of honesty from the teachers
Thank you!