Confronted Son's bully

[mamabearofcc]

I have been looking for advice and opinions. I found here on wether or not to confront son's bully. I DID!! It was not planned ,nor did I ever touch, use profanity, or insult this kid. But I spoke to him firmly and stood my ground as my son's mom . This is an 8 yr old in 2nd grade. Yea 2nd grade!! Has been tripping, pushing, name calling and now Smacked my kid. I had enough and went in the next morning asked the teacher what happend , couldnt give me a clear answer. So , when i turned around saw the kid, i confronted him . I told him to keep his hands to himself and dont ever touch my kid. First and last time ever saying something about this. Long story short. Teacher is in classroom, heard and saw everything. On my way out. Stopped by school officer saying someone said I was screaming and hollering all down the hallway scaring all kids . Mind you this is Early a.m. all teachers standing outside of classrooms so next door obviously can hear. School was always told about all situations and just ever got we talked to both they cant be sitting together , they cant play together . Nothing concrete . NOW ,, I get a call and now I am banned from school premises and son has been transferred to another classroom . I FEEL , like now we are the bad guys here. I knew I would be called for confronting kid ,but taking it all the way being banned was a huge surprise and very unfair and i let them know. While there are others who just get a little slap on the wrist. Am I wrong?

Sadly the school have taken the bully's side.

He now knows that he has the power to indirectly get your son moved into another class.

Personally I would take my child out of that shit show of a school.

Yes you are wrong. I feel for you and your son but you need to play the game with this kind of thing and all you did was give teacher evidence of YOU doing the wrong thing. Your behaviour is the only thing they have concrete evidence of, being banned is the consequence of that.

At this point I’d be considering a school move if your son wants that.

Unfortunately the only evidence they saw was you talking to another child inappropriately. The school needs to deal with that.

Any complaints should be in writing...so it is formal!

You are probably banned from the school for a small period of time.

I think you either need to build bridges or move.

The most important thing is to make sure your son is happy at school.

well, you are the bad guy - you say yourself you confronted an 8 year old. You don't really know what is happening, or anything at all about this child or their circumstances, yet took it upon yourself to intimidate and threaten them

Any school would ban you from the premises for that

The OP was in March, so this isn't a current thread, but as you got very few replies initially, I'll reply to say, yes, you were 💯 wrong, and a bit dim tbh.

You cannot take it on yourself to speak to a 8 yo about their behaviour, regardless of how wrong it is.

You follow procedure & escalate if needed.

I hope matters have improved since you first posted.