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11 yr old girls, poisonous atmosphere - what can I expect from school?

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Scrapeagle · 15/03/2024 09:57

Dd is P7 (last yr of primary, Scotland) and her class has fallen to bits with the girls splitting into factions. There's the majority of the class and then there's myy DD and a couple of others who are less into tiktok, more academic.

Its low level, below the teacher's radar but constant. Her name is whispered, children trip them up, jotters are "accidently" dropped etc. Its escalating to chasing at break time and cornering them.

The teacher is nice but weak. The school have addressed outright bullying- "why don't you go back to X country" for an Eastern European girl - but seem unable to do anything about the corrosive hidden stuff. I see it's hard for the teacher to address but DD is hating it. I don't think she is causing drama here, she's a studious, quiet kid.

What should I expect the school to do here? What can I ask for?

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hastalamista · 15/03/2024 10:17

I don't know having been in the position your daughter was in myself the school couldn't really do much even when my mum got involved. In the end I just got used to it and didn't even bother reporting it. It became like water off a ducks back, uncomfortable in the moment but soon forgotten, it actually made me very strong and resilient.

My concern would be though that this isn't following the bullied kids home through their smart phones. I think a big part in me and others being able to shrug things off was that we could go home and be safe and literally forget about it all while these days the abuse can be constant, this happened to my niece recently where after a falling out in class she received nasty messages all weekend from the girl and her friends. Definity check in that this isn't happing.

HoppingPavlova · 15/03/2024 10:22

Even though you ‘shouldn’t have to’, can you just move schools? Might be best.

Scrapeagle · 15/03/2024 10:40

Thanks @hastalamista , think we're on top of the phones. We restrict time, keep a close eye and again DD seems pretty sensible and has come out of most school WhatsApp groups. Good point that they may be continuing to fan flames on those groups though, makes it harder for it to all die down.

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Scrapeagle · 15/03/2024 10:41

We only have till end June in Scotland before the summer break, so no point in moving schools. Thankfully she's going to a different high school to most of the others.

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