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SEN child being bullied

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Emski79 · 20/01/2024 19:47

My 10yr old son has SEN and is not great with social interaction due to his speech and communication skills.
He has an EHCP in place and is in mainstream primary.
He's been bullied by the same 2 boys for over a year now on and off. Its constant name calling, mainly telling him he's thick or stupid, shoving and pushing and more recently it's been kicking where he's come home with bruising on his leg.
I didn't know the extent of it straight away and as soon as I did I reported it.
School were not very responsive and I've been back and forth, numerous calls have brought it up at his annual review etc.
As my son cannot really explain a series of events the school just dismiss things.
It got to the point where i calmly approached one of the parents - didn't go down well at all. It turned into a slanging match and it's just got worse and worse since then and now I'm being targeted by said parents every school drop off!
Again raised it with school, after he came home with bruises again and they agreed to more supervision in the playground.
I'm sick of it now - I'm going to report the school for not keeping my child safe and also for not dealing with this effectively.
I'm also thinking taking him out of school completely until he starts he new (more suited to his needs) school in September.
Has anyone been through this and could share their experiences?
Sorry it's such a long post!!

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Pigeonqueen · 20/01/2024 19:53

Just take him out now. It’s totally unacceptable that the school isn’t on top of this. Is the new school a specialist school? My son is 11 and has autism and learning disabilities and I can’t imagine him coping in a mainstream school because I know he would be a target for bullying - sadly. I know not every child is the same however. I really hope your son has a happy time in his new school.

Emski79 · 20/01/2024 20:14

Pigeonqueen · 20/01/2024 19:53

Just take him out now. It’s totally unacceptable that the school isn’t on top of this. Is the new school a specialist school? My son is 11 and has autism and learning disabilities and I can’t imagine him coping in a mainstream school because I know he would be a target for bullying - sadly. I know not every child is the same however. I really hope your son has a happy time in his new school.

Yes he's going to a specialist school and he can't wait.
This school have been good up to him being in Year 5 but he's never really had friends, party invites etc etc. I just could never be like that with any child.
After complaining this week about the playground situation the head said they'd put a support in the playground for him and "another child who gets himself into trouble at break time" that just tipped me over the edge! They just don't understand his needs.
Yes strongly thinking of keeping him home until August.
He's had days off due to bullying and his attendance has dropped to 94% I've been warned about that too - they will report me to the LA if I don't provide medical evidence of his reason for absence!! They know he's been off because of bullying!!
Sorry I'm letting it all out on here as no one understands unless they have lived it do they! Thanks for replying x

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 20/01/2024 20:21

How old are the bullies? If they're 10 or over, I'd consider reporting the assault to the police.

At the very least I'd tell the school that's what I'm going to do, regardless of their age - hopefully will kick them up the arse to actually do something.

As for the parents - I don't know wtf is wrong with people. What are they doing / saying? Have you told the school they're harassing you?

Emski79 · 20/01/2024 20:40

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 20/01/2024 20:21

How old are the bullies? If they're 10 or over, I'd consider reporting the assault to the police.

At the very least I'd tell the school that's what I'm going to do, regardless of their age - hopefully will kick them up the arse to actually do something.

As for the parents - I don't know wtf is wrong with people. What are they doing / saying? Have you told the school they're harassing you?

I just might do that they are year 6 so 10 and 11yrs.

The parents are just trying to intimidate/provoke all the time, staring, smirking etc I usually let it go over my head and ignore but I was directly called a dick head yesterday at the school gates and I saw red and let rip.
It's been months in the making. I'm not in the school clique so I'm on my own school drop off pick up and the comment was a step too far I had just had enough!

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