Difficult position

[LucyLou9999]

Advice needed! I have found myself in a difficult position.
A friend has confided in me about her child being bullied. Her child (13) has been receiving messages on social media from other people her age telling them to kill themself.
Mum checks their phone every night and has seen these messages. Mum wanted to block the people but the child was reluctant as felt they needed to see what was being said. The mother had had enough and did block them after time. The child hasn’t had any bother since, thank goodness.
However, the mother since discovered that the child did actually attempt to take their own life. Devastated is an understatement. Child begging mother not to say anything to other parents etc.
Upon discussion friend (reluctantly) tells me that one of the people sending these awful (utterly vile) messages is one of my best friends daughters.
Now, if this was my child doing this and sending these messages I would WANT to know!
I have a compelling need to tell my friend, but my other friend who confided in me doesn’t want me to say anything. Which I get because the hassle has stopped and it’s been settled for a few months. She doesn’t want to break her daughters trust and risk not being told about future issues, which I totally get.
But!! I really feel like the other mother should, and would want, to know that her daughter has been involved in such awful bullying and messaging.
I feel torn in half! Please, if anyone has encountered this, or hasn’t but has a sensible opinion, can you offer some advice.

you were told something in confidence ,keep it to yourself
if you tell your friend you risk opening up a can of worms
which could lead to the child harming herself

It's about what's best for the victim which is keeping quiet. The bully's mother will find out one way or another as it's probably not the only person she's bullying.

I’d want to get involved and help - after all if it continues then someone might come to harm.

Are they all at the same school? Is there a teacher who could advise what best to do?

You shouldn't say anything to the other Mother but I would suggest to your friend who has confided in you that she tells the school. Even if it has stopped, then they can be aware of any issues arising in future.

Rubbish advice to keep quiet. This is a safe guarding issue and the school should be informed as should thr police.

If the school should have a procedure in place for this.

If the school fail to safeguard this child then ofstead or another governing body.

Good luck

If it gets back to the bullied child they will lost all trust in their parent which could have a significant impact. I'd keep quiet.

Do not get involved by telling the bully's mum. You were told in confidence and you would be breaking that. You have no idea how the bully's mum would react. If she denies her daughter's involvement, what would you do then? If she speaks to her daughter, and the bullying starts up again, how would you feel then? It is not your problem to solve and could cause many more problems.

This is not your story to tell. Keep quiet.

How do you envision the school "safe guard" the child? Build a time machine and make it not happen? The child is currently safe. All the school can do at this point is log it.

What on Earth magic wand do some people think we have at schools FGS?!

Agree that the child told her mum asking that no one knew, her mum told you and asked no one knew.

If it's stopped now, you run the risk of reigniting it. However more significantly your friend and their child will lose someone they trust, and having anyone to talk to about it.

If I was either in this situation I would feel really let down, alone and isolated if it became apparent that people I trusted had then spoken (even via third party) to my bully