Hello, this thread gonna be quite longish, but I'll appreciate if you do read, share what you think, hopefully give advice ?
It's all started last year on childrens playground in the park. Me and other 2 mums were with our children when this girl comes in, about 7yr old, with Pitbull dog, all by herself, trying to force her chubby Pitbull dog on to steps so he'd slide down the slide, heavy for her and doggie looked really uncomfortable, obviously one of us asked her nicely not to put puppy up the steps, as they both could get hurt. She didn't like that, and all of sudden we're the worst enemies, she started swearing at us all doesn't matter that were adults with little children, then she was throwing threats at us , saying she'll call her dad that will come and beat us up.
We tried being nice to her, we tried ignoring... But since that day she became absolute terror towards us. Each time when id be at playground with my little then 2.5 yr old, she'd be deliberately mocking my child, every of her sound, she'd be saying nasty words, I literally felt harrassed by that strange child, each time I'd nicely ask her to stop that she'd turn even worse, shoving fingers up , and mocking me too. I don't particularly care about me, I just really disliked that she was following my child deliberately swearing nasty words. Cut long story short, eventually somehow I managed to make up with her, we shook hands, I'd say hello to her if I'd see her in park sometimes.
This year it's started again. Me and other mum standing at the playground having a conversation watching our children playing, and this girl comes in, she interrupted us and told us that we should go away, and followed by all nasty words.
When my little girl asked if we could go to another playground that girl said she'll follow us there :-o followed by more fingers and swearing words, right in front of our children saying your tat children are ucking bches 😧
We tried ignoring we tried being nice , and we was about to leave, as 6 yr old DD of other mum became really upset because of it, she now even afraid coming to park as a result.
Girl says we don't know anything about her so we can't do anything (she's clearly trying to trigger us by her behaviour, knowing exactly what she's doing, but Why?? We're just mums that want to enjoy family time with our children, and not to feel on edge harrassed and abused by now 8 yr old same girl).
This time we did complain about incident to her school, and also to police.. I know, it's ridiculous, but why should we feel like we're constantly bombarded by abuse, our children to feel fear , and to be mocked for fun of it ??
I think something HAS been done, girl seemed to try to avoid us, or not say anything, until today, when she was walking by herself, walked past my 3 yr old and hissed something at her, I asked girl what did you say?? Nicely!! She started her stuff all over again, shoving middle fingers etc. I came to her for talk, reminded her for policeman told me to do if she starts again, and just generally asking her nicely to leave us alone, to stop being nasty, she then lied to me that she 'didnt know what those middle fingers' mean, and obviously i know that she's openly lying only asked her to leave us alone as we don't want these arguments... we were about to just peacefully going different ways when some teenager joined in pretending to standing up for that girl, saying I'm horrid woman having a go at a minor .... I was trying to explain, and said to teenager that she doesn't really know what been happening, and because of that she can't be judging, all that time I was trying to be reasonable and calm, but she completely refused even to listen, then teenagers girl mum joined in, went in at me like geese, with neck forward, felt like she wanted to hit me, it was terrible, I tried keep cool as I'm not person for fighting and I don't want my child to witness any of that.
Then teenager brought up old situation from before how my child bitten her 5 yr old brother on the finger, that my child is a 'ucking ferrel' (I did apologize and explained to my DC that we don't bite at that time) ... Situation wasn't even about her brother...
This all as that 8 yr old standing and smiling, then that teenager and mum gave her a hug as if she's been terribly abused by us.....
Anyways, this been over and over in my head, I feel shaken, obviously I blame myself for even saying anything to that girl, but what mum would like when her little child been hissed at with nasty words ?? I was trying to be reasonable to that girl and in the end nearly got hit... whilst she stood there knew exactly what she's being up to...
What do you all think ?? I'll appreciate any thoughts... AIBU??