Hi
Just wondering if anyone has been through this. My son is 6 and in year 1 at school. He's had a few instances were other kids were being mean, pushed over, hit in arm and one day he came home and asked me what it means when someone shows you their middle finger. I then had to explain this to him. He said oh cos one of them kids did it to him today.
He does have a couple of friends at school and I've told him to stay with them friends and stay away from the mean boys and girls.
But it doesn't seem to just be at school, we were at football tonight which he is completely new too and one kid started giggling with one of the other boys then went up to my son and tripped him up. He asked me on the way home why do people not like me mummy. It breaks my heart. Why are kids such cocky little shits at this age.
School already aware but it still continues. One day he couldn't go to the toilet and started crying cos one kid was blocking the door.
Having gone through the school route and speaking to the parents and yet it still continues, I've started telling him he needs to stand up for himself and if someone hurts him he needs to hit them back, which he's been reluctant to do up until now, but tonight on way home from school there was another kid picking on him throwing stones and being mean then my son just got right in there kicked him back pushed him and scratched his arm.
I asked what was going on and he just said I'm standing up for myself mummy, i just said no worries son carry on .... i don't normally condone violence but I'm sorry when your child is being picked on constantly I was actually really proud of him tonight.
And after the football incident, I've told him if that kid trips him up again then he needs boot him right in the leg. I'm sorry but walking away from bullies doesn't work, I was bullied as a kid and it has a terrible mental impact on you throughout life.