DD Y8 being bullied

[Theknitwitch]

Hope you can help. DD is being bullied by a girl in her group of friends.
DD is new to this school and has made friends with a few other girls but joined a group in her class who seemed nice but recently one of the girls has started regularly shouting at her and hitting her. I’ve checked with DD about why she might be doing this. She says this girl “kicks off for no reason “. She’s done it to other girls too. One of them finally told their mum who arranged to talk to the bully’s mum who was useless and told the mum her daughter just had to work out how to handle her better.

We’ve talked to DD about speaking to bully’s parents or school but she’s worried about not being in a group of groups and making new friends.
Has anyone else had anything similar? We don’t know what to do for the best.

Sounds like she has additional needs, speak to the school if it is happening at school.

Have you spoken to the school?
I'd be arming DD with ways to deal with this behaviour.

We’ve sat down with DD about how to deal with her. She’s tried everything other than being physical herself! I’m keen to speak to the bully’s parents and see if this can be resolved through them. Surely if a second set of parents speak to them they’ll realise there’s a problem?

But your coming at this from the position of a reasonable person.
Turn it round how would you react if someone came to you and told you your DD was behaving in that way?
I presume you would be mortified, take it seriously and deal with it.
The fact the other parent didn't do that but instead blamed the bullied girl tell you that this parent isn't reasonable, so whatever you say will fall on deaf ears.

Could of the other girls film these outbursts then you have evidence to take to the school?

Filming it is a good idea! Thanks

I hope you get it resolved and your poor dd doesn't suffer too much.

Go to the school not the parent.