My friends kid bullies my kid

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice about how to deal with my friends daughter who goes out of her way to be mean to my daughter. They're both 3, and I'm not sure if it's just normal toddler behaviour. I've actually stopped going round to see my friend because of how her daughter treats my daughter.
She'll push my daughter out the way, hit her and throw things at her, snatch things from her, barge in front of her to stop her from doing something/block her path, she'll throw a tantrum if my daughter goes first with anything. The list goes on and on.
It all came to a head when she tried to push my daughter down the stairs for no reason. My friend steps in and tells her daughter off, but I can't have my daughter around another child who is going to seriously hurt her.
Has anyone else experienced this before? Did you cut contact completely?

Yes, and i stopped meeting up with my friend, she didn't do anything though, she believed in gentle parenting 🤦🏻‍♀️

They were a bit older, I also ended up having to swap some extra curricular activities when they were about 6/7 as it happened there as well.

They are Y7 now and in separate schools, I know there are still issues with the other boy's behaviour.

Just start meeting up without the kids.

Jane and Mary don't seem to be enjoying playing together ar the moment, why don't we meet at a cafe when they are in nursery / at the weekend and dads can look after them / of an evening?

Just avoid her child, if the parent isn’t dealing with it it won’t change.

You need to protect your child so give meeting up a miss for a while.

At least your family is trying to deal with it. I had a friend who accused me of being over protective when I'd pick my 18 month old up after her nearly 3-year-old had pushed her over yet again

They’re 3, it’s normal toddler behaviour. Your child needs to be kept safe so just stay close by while they play. I was so smug about my gentle child until at 4 he finally pushed someone back and then I had 2 tricky years of trying to reign his behaviour back in.

Kids learn at different times and in different ways. I’m sure your friends child will get there eventually and there’s every chance yours will go through a phase of pushing and hitting. It’s normal, they are little and learning.

Duh not family, friend

That's a good idea!

Thank you everyone