Real Neighbours from hell

[Lazylizard22]

hi

I live alone with my border collie and have aspergers syndrome and stress/sleep induced epilepsy...

My current neighbors really do seem to be the neighbors from hell, at first they seemed quite quiet, but very quickly the doors started slamming, the cupboards, the walls, the music, indeed they don't seem to be able to do anything quietly.. They go away frequently then leaving their grand kids to party until 2-3 am where it always ends up in drunken teenagers fighting and screaming at each other with music blasting. They put a hot tub in the shed & usually hit the booze every night & last summer I endured 7 hours of Elvis blasting from the back of the house so I just left with my dog and stayed out of the house for 3 hours, sat under a tree in the local park.. every morning they get up which is around 6 am they start banging doors, cupboards, walls so I have started sleeping on the floor in the computer room as its the furthest room away from them and with ear plugs I cant hear them.. I have pointed out when they first moved in I have epilepsy and its made worse by not sleeping but they don't seem to care less... indeed my seizures have tripled in numbers since they moved in

Spoke to others in the neighborhood and everyone is bothered by them yet no one wants to do anything in fear of reprisals which I fully understand...

The b/f who I can only describe as the classic 'chav mindless thug' has an obsession with fires which he has 2-3 times a week sometimes more for which they put the plastic seats around... Though they have the largest garden in the row of terraced houses we live in they insist on putting the fire right by our fence only 2 -3 feet away when they have a huge garden, and right by our apple tree and plants etc I have been looking after for around 20 years now.. The apple tree has been destroyed from the toxic smoke, for which I assume some is illegal he's burning felt, house hold rubbish, old furniture, just about anything which of course has killed off the apple tree.. I cant get my dog out for a pee as she's a rescue collie and very nervous and hates the smoke and fire and noise as well as not being able to just sit and enjoy my garden.

I approached them yesturday as they had the third fire this week and I was polite ( and recorded it just in case) as they had another last night while they could clearly see I had a line of washing hanging out...yet I was met with immediate aggression and shouting from him saying he's doing nothing wrong and they claimed there is no smoke which is nonsense because ive filmed in it countless times.. so it came to nothing, we have reported them several times about the fires to the private landlord and nothing happens..

ive lived in this house apart from living in Germany for 2 years since I was 12, I am now 50 and very apprehensive to move, more so because im alone.. This place doesn't feel safe for me though to live next to people who have no respect and are so selfishly driven they don't care how they effect others.. I have documented alot of this with pictures and videos and started a diary but not sure to what ends...

Ive read a lot of noisy neighbor posts on this site and a lot of the times people say 'just go', or 'life is too short' rather than fight the case.. is this really the best option rather than leaving the house I have been living in most of my life? They know im alone, no i have a medical condition & i think are preying on that to do what they want and lead their self pleasure enduced lifestyle at the cost of everyone else in the neighbourhood

I can't believe nobody has responded? Perhaps move it to aibu? I hope things improve for you.Perhaps environmental health at the council can give you some advice.

You may find it difficult but I think you need to have a conversation with them to say officially how it's affecting your life. So that you can show you've 'tried'.
Have you reported the antisocial behaviour? To local council?
Log all noise/fires etc so it's documented and you have a timeline.
Are they tenants? If they are report them to their landlord. And k3p reporting.
Can you go to your drs and get them to log that you are having detrimental health issues.
You need to get a documented timeline.
If you own though and you complain to the police you will have to declare if you sell.
If you are worried about consequences then perhaps a ring door bell and CCTV, as well a check on your boundary fences.
If they harass you call the police every time.

Those fires don't look small at all, I think your doing the right thing keep building up evidence and take videos when they're being noisy. Although it can be difficult if you have enough evidence and complain to the council they will try to help you. Especially if they are burning rubbish and plastic and having big fires it could end up being dangerous...

I hope you can get this sorted and feel better, I've lived next to some horrible neighbours before and I know how much it effected me and my mental health.

Do you have any friends who could come with you while you speak to them? Maybe the police would be able to help too.

Have you ever rang the police?

ty for your posts and suggestions..

No I have not reported it to the police one of the reasons being that if I sell I will have to disclose this which of course will put people off buying it.. Also I know in the past that revenge for telling the authorities with these people is common so I am apprehensive telling them...

tried to talk to them several times about the regularity of the fires and the placement of the fires but they don't care they stop for a week then resume or like in the other day when I confronted them he got aggressive immediately even though I was friendly. perhaps an error on my part being so friendly with them as these type of people don't seem to respond well to polite & calm conversations..

it is stressful living next to people who really don't care about anyone or anything but themselves and self pleasure, it feels like a toxic environment...

is the rule for disclosing the reporting only with the police? or if you report them to the council too must to disclose when selling?

Not sure if this is the correct place to post
my story is my neighbours smoking in the garden throughout the night
last night they were out there at 3am and 4am smoking and chatting
they sit in a gazebo they put on the fence and it is very near our bedroom window
we asked them to be quiet and they said shut your window (window had been shut)
aibu to expect not to be woken up
they don’t seem to realise how loud their voices are .

What about speaking to the the fire service? This sounds a total nightmare and seems like some folk can do what they like due to ineffective landlords.

I'm sorry, this sounds awful.

I wonder if you can get any help from the environment team at the council if they are burning waste? They may be offering tip runs to people and illegally disposing of it. At very least, that might put them on notice about the fires.

In regard to your question about moving, yes, I think it can be the right thing sometimes. We are diffident and find aggression very hard to deal with. My friend has a husband who is an absolutely no-nonsense builder. He would be round there on the first party night and get them straight into line. It can be a case of finding the right buyer, but sad that sometimes we just have to pay the cost of other people's bad conduct or suffer more.