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URGENT - Daughter in trouble with school after long bullying campaign

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worried4child · 18/04/2023 22:06

Hello. Thank you for a lovely forum. I'm a new joiner, so please forgive me if U say or do something wrong. I'm urgently looking for some advice for my 15yr old daughter who after 18 months of bullying campaign by girls had had enough has ended up lashing out and slapping one of them. Some girls have witnessed this incident, but not the bit where she was actually being teased and picked on.

Even though we have reported numerous times in the past that our daughter has been bulled, the school have done nothing at all, blaming it on misunderstanding or teachers turning a blind-eye, but suddenly due to this incident, they say it's our daughter that's the bully.

A bit of background - Around 18 months ago, malicious rumours were spread about her being unclean and unwashed were, most of the girls in the school since then have turned against her and those that do like her are afraid to hang around with her in case they become the next target of bullying. There's constant shaming, insulting and teasing, sometimes hideously pulling her hair or telling her to stay away in case others catch disease. Our daughter used to come home crying her eyes out and not wanting to go to school. Due to personal circumstances, we couldn't change the school and that's still the case.

What can we do to counter the school's argument and do we have any leg to stand on?

Thank you!

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Dontbelieveaword · 18/04/2023 22:13

I'm sorry your child had been subjected to such a sustained period of bullying.
However, the school are not going to take physical violence very lightly, no matter how provocated it might have been.
It's good that the school will have a record of all your complaints of bullying and of course, this could be mentioned.
I'm not sure what you can do right until you find out what course of action is being taken. Will the police be involved? What had the school said the nrxr steps are? Have the other child's parents been in touch with you or the school? Have they said what action they are taking?

SecretVictoria · 18/04/2023 22:16

Why can’t you change the school? Sorry, but I think it’s awful that she’s been made to endure this.

viques · 18/04/2023 22:21

You can’t counter the argument that she hit another child since it was witnessed.

You can however ask the school to investigate the bullying , intimidation and assault allegations that you have made previously ( I hope you made them by email so there is a properly documented trail) , you can also ask for a copy of their anti bullying policy, and ask how they are going to implement procedures to keep your daughter safe going forward.

Mischance · 18/04/2023 22:29

She has had 18 months of bullying but is still in the same school!!

Contact the school's safeguarding lead; and also the safeguarding governor; launch a complaint via the school's procedure concerning their failure to protect your child; look at the school's bullying policy. Honestly - I would not have allowed this to go on this long without triggering all the procedures that are there to protect your child.

She hit another child and the school have to act in protection of that child; but equally they have failed to protect yours over a prolonged period.

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