Please can anyone help me respond to school worried about dd

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10 y dd is being targeted by another child.
the other child is a girl that identifies as a boy I will call child x.
dd and x were friends, until x said she wanted dd to be her girlfriend which dd declined and said no but let’s still be good friends.
the next day x walked up to dd from behind and punched her without warning in the cloakroom, several incidences of x shouting and calling dd a liar, bitch etc etc.
x physically attacked a boy on way home in the last fortnight and the boys are generally scared of x because she is physically the largest in the year.
the school are known for dismissing any claims of bullying but initially they did seeem to take action and spoke to x parents and put x outside heads office during some breaks etc.
on Thursday dd was in the cloakroom and wanted to leave when came in x stopped dd from leaving and when dd tried to get through the door x slammed the door onto dd hurting and scratching her arm. I emailed the school asking what they were going to do about the latest attack and their reply was ‘we do not consider this to be an act of violence’
and told me to ‘get some perspective’
how do I even begin to start protecting my dd when the school don’t consider this an act of violence?
our schools governors are known to be a waste of time. It is an academy school wondering if worth going straight to them?
will be seeking advice from bullying charity’s tomo.
im at loss what to do please can anyone advise?

moving schools sadly not an option for us

I'm so sorry for your Dd that sounds like a nightmare. To be honest I'd be going to the police if she's attacking your daughter like that.

Ask for a copy of the behaviour policy, the anti bullying policy and the peer on peer abuse policy (I have a feeling that this one might have just changed its name.

Then, go though each one in detail, highlighting the areas where your child has been affected, and, in another colour, the action the school should be taking, but hasn't.

Then, write to them, quoting their own policies and the points where they are not following them.

Moving forward, a diary of every time your child is affected and any action taken by the school.

Every time something happens, write to them again quoting their policies.

Good luck.

It is so upsetting when this happens and frustrating when the school seem to brush it off. Well done for listening to your child and contacting the school.
It is usually considered bullying when it’s repeated, which sound like it is.
Agree with little fish, get a copy of their bullying Policy , record everything, and email the teachers with every development and ask the, how they are going to manage the child’s behaviours and the risks created by them.
Just most of all listen and be there for your child.

Found the info below for general info.

Hoping all works out for the best for you xx

there are 4 main recognised forms of bullying:
Physical bullying
Physical bullying includes hitting, kicking, tripping, pinching and pushing or damaging property. Physical bullying causes both short term and long term damage.

Verbal bullying
Verbal bulling includes name calling, insults, teasing, intimidation, homophobic or racist remarks, or verbal abuse. While verbal bullying can start off harmless, it can escalate to levels which start affecting the individual target.

Social bullying
Social bullying, sometimes referred to as covert bullying, is often harder to recognise and can be carried out behind the bullied person’s back. It is designed to harm someone’s social reputation and / or cause humiliation.

Social bullying can include:
lying and spreading rumours
negative facial or physical gestures, menacing or contemptuous looks
playing nasty jokes to embarrass and humiliate
mimicking unkindly
encouraging others to social exclude someone
damaging someone’s social reputation or social acceptance.

Cyber bullying
The Cyber Bullying Research Centre defines cyber bullying as: Intentional and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, phones, and other electronic devices.

Cyber bullying can be overt or covert bullying behaviours using digital technologies including hardware such as computers and smartphones, and software such as social media, instant messaging, texts, websites and other online platforms.

Cyber bullying can happen at any time. It can be in public or in private and sometimes only known to the target and the person bullying.

Cyber bullying can include:

abusive or hurtful texts, emails or posts, images or videos
deliberately excluding others online
nasty gossip or rumours
imitating others online or using their log-in.

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Definition of bullying
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Above all listen to your child.
good luck

Copy and pasted this off the Government Website for reference xx
Bullying at school
Contents
The law
Reporting bullying
Bullying outside school
Bullying - a definition
Bullying - a definition

There is no legal definition of bullying.

However, it’s usually defined as behaviour that is:

repeated
intended to hurt someone either physically or emotionally
often aimed at certain groups, for example because of race, religion, gender or sexual orientation
It takes many forms and can include:

physical assault
teasing
making threats
name calling
cyberbullying - bullying via mobile phone or online (for example email, social networks and instant messenger)
Your school should have its own policy to stop bullying.

Thank you all I’ve got a meeting with the this morning been over their anti bullying, behaviour and complaints policies and got a record of everything so far. I just hope we can take a step forward today just want my child to feel safe.

Great work! Well done for getting hold of all the policies.

Let us know how the meeting goes.

💐
Good luck

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