Bit of a complicated one:
my dad passed away almost 2 years ago, before we lost my dad we were a close family.
mum dad + 3 children. Me 22f, 2 brothers 27 + 30. Eldest has moved out. It’s also important to add that I have suffered with depression and anxiety since a child and was hospitalised for attempted suicide in 2018. Middle brother is in process of buying a house.
a little while after the funeral my eldest brother started accusing me of all sorts of random things. Concerning my savings, my mental health and my sex life. - none of which are his concern.
this got worse and his opinions and lies about me got spread and he forced his opinions down my family and my family friends throats. To the point my mum stopped speaking to me for months, and any friend of the family look the other way and don’t acknowledge me in public.
my eldest brother took it upon himself a year after my dads death to corner me in my bedroom and shout abuse at me for 3 and a half hours. He was right in my face and it was pure anger, you could tell he saw nothing but red. My mum and brother were also in the room but didn’t stop him. After trying to stick up for myself but barely getting the chance to speak it got to the point I was so overwhelmed I pushed him out of my personal space and told him to get out when my other brother tackled me onto my bed and forced me down by laying on top of me and screamed that I was a psycho into my face.
they eventually left and it was never spoke of again.
apart from that I haven’t spoke a word to my brothers since my dad died.
fast forward to end of last year/this year.
Middle brother and his gf have been caught rummaging around in my bedroom and invading my privacy to the point my boyfriend had to put a lock on my door. Any food my boyfriend and I cooked or bought was either eaten, thrown away, or tampered with. - I found fingernails in my pasta. got to the point my mum bought me a mini fridge for my room and my boyfriend got a kettle so I didn’t have to keep going downstairs and being around them or have my stuff ruined.
my dad had 3 cars that when he died us 3 siblings all had one car in our name.
a few months ago I got a letter through saying that the owner had been changed? Yet I hadn’t signed anything? My brothers took the logbook and put the car in their name without my permission. (Not sure of the law on this) but I was unaware and did not sign anything.
recently, my middle brother has randomly exploded at me on a number of occasions, off the top of my head for perspective - one time was because I was in the shower when he wanted to go in there. Another time my 13 year old dog needed to go to the vet (we were afraid he’d had a stroke and might’ve lost him) my mum and I don’t drive and he refused to take me, screamed in my face calling me names and a narcissist etc and forced me (5”2) to carry my dog on foot to the vet. There’s been numerous other times for ridiculous things too- but the most recent was yesterday.
I am 13 weeks pregnant and went for my 12w scan last Friday before revealing to close friends/family last weekend - my mum knew before this. But my mum decided to tell my brothers yesterday (Monday) I was pregnant after I had asked her not to because it would cause a huge row, with my mental health etc- I didn’t need the stress so if they had to find out I wanted it to be later on so I didn’t have to deal with it throughout my pregnancy.
I was sat on the phone to my boyfriend/father of baby- when I heard shouting and screaming downstairs - this is usually about me when it happens so I got up and locked my door- my middle brother continued screaming but aimed it at me now instead of my mum and screamed and shouted abuse at me for being pregnant. Punched doors and from what I could hear threw things too. My partner heard some of it as he was on the phone and I have informed my midwife as I’m unsure if this is now abuse? It’s taking a toll on my mental health and it’s making me worry the stress is going to harm our baby. Im only 22 and up til now I’ve always had a fairly close family, so this is very new to me. I’ve been bullied in school from a young age but I feel this is very different? There’s obviously a lot more to it and probably harsher language than you could ever imagine. But I’ve just put some brief points - If anyone has any advice at all I’ll take it. Im so lost and no idea what to do about this. All I want is for our baby to be safe and I really don’t want to bring it into this situation where we could both potentially in danger.
Thankyou in advance xxx