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overitall100 · 12/01/2023 23:40

We recently found out that some mums (one being a teacher) have been saying nasty things about my dd to my dd’s friends.
Telling them she’s horrible and to stay away from her.
To add some context - she used to be quite a timid girl and we had to move her school during primary due to her sister being bullied. In the last few years she has really grown in confidence and loves friends and socialising. She honestly doesn’t have a bad bone in her body but seems to exude a nice warmth and kids like her.
One of these mums has gone out of her way to try and make my dd look bad to other mums (her dd used to dominate my dd until her confidence grew) and the other is holding a grudge since we left the school years ago.

Now I know that I sound like I think my dd is perfect. I don’t - but I know she’s got a good heart and she never says unkind things about people which makes me think she’s a pretty lovely girl.

My question is why would fully grown adults bitch about a child to kids that aren’t even their own and try and control their relationships? It baffles me. My parents never involved me in petty stuff and I’m trying to be the same but im
quite upset that these people would try and spread nasty rumours about my children.

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Fairydustandsparklylights · 12/01/2023 23:48

That all sounds very odd. How do you know for sure that they’re saying these things?

A parent is within their rights to tell their child to stay away from another if they’re not a good influence. They could have described a certain behaviour as nasty when explaining to their dc why they need to stay away. I’m not saying that your dd is like this but is it possible the mum said stay away and the child repeated and then added to it?

overitall100 · 13/01/2023 04:37

These parents are saying it to other peoples children with no basis. So it seems pretty slanderous to me. One of them hasn’t even seen her for years.
The school always say she’s a nice girl. I’m always open to knowing if my kids have done something but we are baffled by this.
Both these mums have kids who however do have a reputation for being unkind so I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

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