Teacher is a bully to my son, what do i do

[Laurinja]

My 6 year old is in year 2 and the teacher is a proper bully, have spoken to other parents at the school and who previously went to that school everyone saying the same thing "she picks on kids" even other teachers feel bullied by her.
She has bullied me over the phone and calling next day to apologise, thats when i realised she tripped herself.
Have made appointment with Headteacher whos very nice so hopefully will help..
But what else can a parent do when the teacher herself is a bully?

Do not waffle on to the head about “what you have heard” and “other parents”

Keep it very specific to your son and you.

Give specific examples of bullying, not vague statements like “she’s a bully”.

Obviously if you are unhappy with a teachers approach then ask for a meeting with the head teacher however I think the word bully is thrown about a bit too much these days.

give us some examples of how she is bullying your child?

I made a formal complaint when this happened to DS so it was on file.

Put specific things down in black and white. Keep a record of incidents particular to your son. No hearsay.

And? Was the upshot just “so it was on file”? Nothing was actually done?

Good advice.

How did she bully you over the phone?

You need a list of specific events.

You would need to be specific when you see the headteacher. Write down a list of the things the teacher has done. From your post, the only thing you mention is that she called you to apologise.

@Endlesslysurprised84 gives excellent advice.
Make a list before you go in of specific things you are upset about.
What did she say on the phone that was inappropriate?
What has she said or done to your ds that you wish to complain about? Do you have dates for the incidents?
What would you like to happen now?

The more specific you are regarding events and possible resolution, the more likely you are to get a result you are happy with.
Good luck!

I’d make a list of all the incidents and try to remain factual, as previous pp have said, rumours and hearsay aren’t relevant. I’ve worked in education and she well could be but equally there are usually two sides to most stories so it’s hard to say much without further context on her behaviour.

Context needed.
But, given that you are canvassing other parents outside the school I'm not sure the pot and kettle are that far apart.

I think you need to be very clear about what happened and not use terms like “bullying” as they are open to interpretation.
im particularly interested in what “bullying” she did to you by phone.

My well behaved DS was bullied by a teacher only once in about year 9. His friends had told me it was obvious and they were at a loss as to what to do.
I phoned the school and asked that the teacher contact me immediately he could. I explained very calmly and clearly that I'd been informed by numerous children what was happening in his class and gave the examples that were concrete. He didn't attempt to deny to his credit.
I informed him that should this happen one more time I would consider it bullying and act accordingly. It never happened again and, to this day, have no idea why it started in the first place ( DS had always been liked, was well behaved and popular)
It was utterly bizarre from a grown adult to a child

demand an appointment with the teacher. Give direct examples of the inappropriate behaviour, raise your concerns and ask them to explain themselves. Don't go off hearsay of other parents and do not make allegations. Keep to the facts and see what they say. If it doesn't resolve to your satisfaction then you go to the head.

Thank you everyone for advice, have made list of points and what she did wrong, also the way she kept comparing my sons bedtime 20:00 to hers daughter whos year 10 and sleeps by 19:00
Told me to watch what son does at home and email evey single detail about his misbehaviour.
My son is sweet child and good playground buddie, studies well. He is bright but by looks of things she is looking for deeper issue to get Socials involved at any costs where there is no need.
And im not just saying it, its how it looks. My kid was happy in Foundation stage and year 1 but since starting year 2 in September hes been comming home crying.

Definition of bullying, by the Anti-Bullying Alliance: Bullying is the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online.

I've added the bold.

Their website might be helpful OP for getting some more information.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk/

I agree with PP about having specific examples relating only to your child when you meet with the HT and also agreeing a clear plan of action with them that you can get in writing ideally - even if you follow up with them by email to set out your understanding of what was agreed in the face to face meeting.

Also read your school's anti bullying policy, which should be on the website. This might help you when you meet the head.

A Y10 in bed (and asleep?) by 7pm is not natural, unless up at 5am and doing a ton of sport I guess.

@Laurinja everyone has given great advice here. Get specific incidents written down. If you've been told of incidents witnessed firsthand by the person telling you, have that noted down too. Make the complaint. Our school had a vile, nasty little bully of a teacher who likes to pick her favourites and is dismissive or worse, always having a go at those she doesn't click with straight away. I know most of these kids very, very well and how they're treated in school certainly does not match up with who these kids are. They're certainly not the horribly behaved brats she's treating them as.
She was only a few years out of school herself and we parents tried to give her all the chances but quite honestly, she was so full of herself (being newly qualified) that she was obnoxious and nasty. It's changed a little now as she finally had a kid of her own and found out what children were really like.

Just curious though, your Kidman teacher says her year 10 kid is in bed by 7pm? Is that a 10 year old or someone in year 10 of high school? Tbh, I suppose both ages seem odd to me for such an early bed time

she is looking for deeper issue to get Socials involved at any costs where there is no need.

you have alarmed me with this statement Op. Teachers really don’t have the time let alone the inclination to actively strive to involve social services in one of the 30 children they teach life.

Im going to hazard a guess that SS have been involved in the past?

Im truly sorry to hear that, i had experience with one of those too. She was older teacher in younger class group, very noisy, always wanted to know everything at what was going on at childs home (any childs) and made kid cry every day. 3 other teachers were scared of her too...was difficult year.
Ombudsman does great job at scaring these type of teachers

Did you just reply to your own 3-year old post @Laurinja?