My DD started Secondary in September and was placed in the same class as one of her good friends (K) from primary. K quickly made friends with some other girls who DD didn't take to and so started spending time with other friends. This did not go down well with K and what started out as continuous questioning about where DD is going or who she's been with has now turned into accusatory texts where K consistently plays the victim.
It got so bad last week that DD had a panic attack on the way to school, so I encouraged her to speak to her Tutor. He was very supportive and unbeknownst to DD, spoke to K to set her straight on a few things. Cue more texts from K to DD and a call from me to K's mother, who was reasonable enough and seemed to want to help resolve the situation.
Today, DD tells me their topic in PHSE today was 'conflict' and that K held court in class about how DD had run to the teacher last week to tell on her, making various other horrid comments about her, as if she wasn't there at all. It ended up with my DD in the middle of 4 others, talking about the incident and treating her as though she was invisible.
I'm so upset about this, especially when DD had the maturity to remove herself from a group of girls who she felt were being a bit mean to others and to find other friends, only for her life to be made impossible in class by K who seems now to be rounding up classmates to turn against DD.
So DD's spoken to her Form Tutor, I've spoken to the child's mother...do I just leave it alone and hope it sorts itself out? My heart is breaking but I keep being told that this is what secondary is like. I don't want to make it any worse for her.
I don't remember it being like this for me?!
WWYD?