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AIBU? What to do

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Irishflower · 06/10/2022 22:48

DS has a 'friend' in his class who is very over powering, and has recently been controlling DS not letting him play with anyone else and asking him to do things etc and saying he wants him to play with him no one else.

I've approached the teacher and said that DS is feeling overwhelmed by this boys constant obsession to play with him and want him to sit next to him all the time etc and he said he will monitor the situation and try and separate them during different daily activities.
Last week I found out that DS was asked if he wanted to go and spend 'free time' with this boy who has an hour a day to play with what he wants in a separate room because of his attention difficulties and behavioural problems!
I'm annoyed that they put my DS in that situation just to keep the boy happy in my eyes and make life easier so he doesn't kick off and he has his 'friend' with him so he's happy.
I do not want my DS singled out and isolated from the rest of the class while the boy has his free time especially when we are trying to distance them and encourage other friendships!
Am I over reacting?
I just don't want this to become a problem or issue further down the line and want to nip it in the bud first.
What is the best way to approach this as I am planning on speaking with the teacher about my concerns?
Thanks 😊

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SunshineClouds1 · 06/10/2022 22:57

How old are they?

Regardless, I wouldn't want my child pulled out of a class to keep another child happy.
The school should have things in place for him and not have to rely on another child to keep things sweet.

I would be interested to know how many times this has happened without you knowing.
Did DC tell you about the free time?
If so, id be asking questions why you weren't asked/told about this.

Irishflower · 06/10/2022 23:05

They are 6.
As far as I know it's the first time this has happened as my DS is quite upfront and honest with us telling us everything which is good. He did say he 'helped' his friend the other day do some tidying up in the library which his friend gets to do as part of his 'special tasks' but again I don't see why DS was helping just because the other boy asked.
I just don't know how to break this cycle.

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