My DS has just started high school, he travels by train with his sister who is 2 years older than him. We suspect that he has ADHD in particular the hyperactivity, and we are waiting a referral.
My son says he likes school, but I suspected some boys in his class who travel on the train were being nasty with him. Apparently they have been saying to my DD that they feel sorry for her, because she has to live with my DS. The thing is my DS can be annoying especially when he has nothing to do and traveling on the train is boring to him. So at first I just put the things I am about to say down to him annoying the boys in question. The other day before bed he started to cry and he told me that he sat next to them in assembly and they said to him "what are you doing move" to which he went to sit somewhere else. He said that when they walk from the train station to school one of the boys will tell him he's annoying and then tells him to walk another way, which my son then does. After this incident I asked my DH to go on the train that he gets home without my son seeing, so that it gives us an idea of what is going on. He said that the boys did say something about my son, but it wasn't anything bad and my DH said that he could hear the boys in question say to eachother that they were trying to wind my son up. On Friday when my son came home we asked him how things went to which my DD said that my DS slapped one of the boys in a playful way, because he wrote on the window my son's name and then the word sucks. We explained to our DS that no matter what even if it's in a playful way that he shouldn't slap full stop. To which my son admitted that this boy purposefully swings his bag into my son's chest, and hits him. We have decided that on Monday we will send our son on the bus. I am obviously going to tell the school first thing tomorrow morning, but I am feeling really anxious about the outcome. I just know that these boys will come back and say that my son is really annoying but I am hoping that the school will take on board that no matter what even if someone is annoying you don't treat them like they have done.
Sorry, I'm not really looking for advice, I just needed somewhere to share how I feel. I was bullied at school myself and I know how hurtful it is, but knowing that one of my children is facing this issue feels so much worse.