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Unkind parents

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Greeneggsandham40 · 26/07/2022 06:55

This is a long story but I will try and make it short…
my son became very good friends with a baby at a club from a very young age with a child from a group of mums that were already in a group and wouldn’t really engage with me (which is fine I get that ppl make friends in pregnancy groups ect)
later on it so happens my child attends same nursery with 2 parents and they act as if they don’t know me even though our chn are friendly.
one day one of the mums snaps at me one morning at drop off- I then messaged her later that morning to ask if she was ok and invited her for a Friday night out with some others mums which she accepted.
as time went on it seemed the group I’d invited her to had become less friendly to me and less play dates were made.
during lockdown I would msg in group chats and they would ignore me…I got fed up with the group and left the chat as it was making me unhappy.
after the lockdown I noticed parents were blanking me and not talking to me at all.
i know only get contacted when there is a birthday party, they are friendly and chatting up to that point then after the party go back to ignoring me.
this unfriendly parent behaviour has now spilled into my sons school, it seems some parents from nursery are friendly with the school parents and the same situation has followed.
I feel so sad for my son as he’s such a lovely boy and I’ve no idea how to make this better for him?!
has anyone else experienced unfriendly parents?

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Ilovechocolate87 · 14/09/2022 13:49

Hey- know I'm very late in replying to this, but just wanted to say I'm with you! My daughter was best friends with a little girl who we had known from baby groups etc, they live in our village and the mum and I were friendly (in a 'mum friend' way...playdates with the girls etc) when they started school everything slipped and she gradually became really offish with me, to the extent that a year later we no longer speak, and mutually ignore each other (I kept on trying to say hi for awhile but she often brushed me off so stopped bothering) I also messaged her a polite message several months ago saying I had noticed she doesn't really talk to us much anymore and apologies if I had offended her in some way.Got nothing back.She ignores us all at the school gates, birthday parties etc...sadly it does seem to have affected our DDs relationship as they no longer play together really (although this may have been a coincidence, and a natural choice of her daughter to make other friendships...not sure) sadly the mum of a little boy (my dd's 'new' best friend) is best pals with the other one, and is now giving me the same treatment, despite being friendly before.So guessing she is siding with/beleiving the other one about some unknown issue they have, despite me never being anything but nice to either of them.
It feels really shit, my heart goes out to you, as its like being back in the school playground again yourself with others being mean.And it seems like the mean parents pop up everywhere you go, like seeing an ex or something.Its horrible being forced not to speak to someone you used to get on with but now don't for no obvious reason, and knowing you've done nothing wrong and don't deserve it.But all you can do sadly is ignore them and make friends with the parents who ARE nice, and focus on and socialise with them instead.And think...it's not me, it,xs them! xx

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