Bullying high school please help!

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Hi, first time poster here. My son 12, high school.. has today upset a Ukrainian child who's fled her country. Hes made bomb noises and mocked her for having a nervous tick. School have rang to inform me that he will be in isolation and she thinks my son was showing off. Hes apologied. I dont think he realises how much damage has been done! Me and his dad are so upset/mortified. Explained all that's happening in ukraine right now etc. Took his xbox and phone and now he's in his room crying. (So am i) obviously this poor girl is upset and I really don't know what to do. Can anyone help me please 😔 X

What would be helpful if you could ask the school to arrange a mediation meeting with everyone involved to work through the issues.
We had similar challenges last year. We found a brilliant mediator to work with our son and the school. Sorted out now

Thankyou! Still devastated! :(

I suspect your ds had limited understanding of what is happening in Ukraine and the realities of the other child's trauma. It might be more productive to really help him understand these issues instead of just telling him off. Bollocking by itself can lead to revenge cycles. That's not to say you minimise the impact, but you come to it from an assumption that he's not being deliberately cruel, just incredibly thoughtless. You also need to help him to find a way repair the situation because most 12 year olds wouldn't be able to do this in this kind of situation.

Thankyou for your reply :) yes he doesn't know what's going on in Ukraine. We don't watch the news. Hes only seen things on tiktok! We will be educating him this weekend whilst we are off work. Hes apologised to the girl today. Ive bought a box of milk tray to give her on Monday from my son when hes back in the classroom. X