It’s been years since we experienced this as a family but having just done some research I realise why I still feel quite traumatised. I wanted to share with anyone who might find it useful.
If you see my only other post on MN I mention that school staff have been mean about my dd and it is not justified.
iI had never heard of the term Flying Monkeys before but it all now makes sense. When my kids were younger one of them experienced bullying and it went on and on as the School would not deal with it. My child had no confidence left and to cut a long story short we left and the Head made up a bullying report to put themselves in a good light with no regard to how this would affect my child. Basically to evade any responsibility for poor safeguarding.The Governors who were all friends closed ranks and my child, the victim was let down.
We moved our kids to another local School and things were so much better but I started hearing things about my family that weren’t true and were hurtful.
These supposed Safeguarding adults were going around telling anyone who would listen that we weren’t nice and all sorts of bizarre stories such as we had tried to fix a Hearing about the issues I mention before. None of these people were present at any meetings but were really enjoying trying to bring us down again. All I can imagine is their lives must have been lacking any excitement.
Even years on, I hear nasty things about us. We aren’t really a family that gets involved in gossip so are probably an easy target as there’s no comeback. I just don’t have the energy and find it stressful even thinking about how my child was affected at that time.
I’ve not been able to put my finger on it before but I think it’s a case of Narcissistic behaviour by individuals at that School and the Flying Monkeys are all those that facilitate it and want to add further pain to what you are going through. They don’t care that your family are suffering.
Obviously I’m still unhappy about how my dd has been treated recently but it puts it in to context and makes it easier to give it less relevance.
Maybe this will be helpful to anyone who has experienced adults gossiping about you with no grounds whatsoever. Hold your head up high and don’t let them get you down.