Parent bully

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My dd is having a hard time at School at the moment.
She used to be friends with a girl who was very strong minded and bossed her around relentlessly and treated her quite badly. As my dd gained confidence she decided to break away and make new friends.
For some reason the parent of this child who works in education locally has taken it upon herself to tell other kids in the year (at a birthday party recently) that my dd is a ‘nasty piece of work’ and now gives my dd dirty looks in town.

My dd makes friends quite easily and is well
liked but this parent and another person who who works at my dd’s school who is friends with this parent are both saying mean things about my dd which is having an influence on how she is treated by other girls in the year.

Apart from being inappropriate behaviour for teaching staff I don’t know why an adult would pick on a child? Problem is if you say anything then you become the ‘problem parent’.

When I see this woman she is really friendly but now I know via various people what she is doing I feel really upset.

Anyone else been in this situation? I’m not sure how to deal with it.

If you have proof that the staff member at your DD's school is doing this I would start with a complaint to the head teacher there.

@SoupDragon thanks for your thoughts. I don’t have physical proof unfortunately. We do have however a lot of girls saying mean things at the moment. Also two parents have told me that they’ve been told stuff by this woman.

I would write down what you have been told by the two parents and ask to have a confidential meeting with the head teacher. If anything untrue is being said it is Slander. It will also be breaching ethics codes if said by someone in a teaching/care role. It is horrible and immature of the parent. I know one who does act like this and we have distanced ourselves from her as much as possible - easier with a young child.

I am
In a very similar situation. My sons "best friend" is struggling with my son branching and and making some new friends (year 5) the best friend dad is the TA in their classroom . The TA dad has spoke to my son and his new friend in the play ground making comments he's heard them complaining about his son. At football training he singled my son out. I've gone to the head. The best friend is now telling anyone who will listen my son is a bully (the teacher and head flat out stated my son is not a bully. two mum friends have contacted me to tell me what this child is doing and saying. I understand kids will fall out but the TA dad seems to have a conflict of interest and as a result my son doesn't want to go to school. I'll be interested in your outcome. I wish I could offer advice!