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Other kids obsession with my child

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Dudeface · 08/02/2022 15:47

I would like a bit of advice from anyone who may have experienced this or know what to do

There is a girl in my daughter's class who is absolutely obsessed with her. They are both 5 years old. It is upsetting to my daughter's other friends because the obsessed kid is nasty to them. She told me this a few times and thought I would monitor the situation.

A party came along and I saw this behaviour first hand. She was mean, nasty and even pushed other children out of the way to get near my daughter. It's frightening really. The parents aren't bothered, in fact the mother is a compulsive liar and is known to be generally odd. I sent an email to the school who said they had noticed this behaviour and were trying to manage it. That was 3 weeks ago and we are getting other parents speak to us telling us that their children are upset because the obsessed one is doing things to upset them to keep them away. She even told the teachers that a child had pushed my daughter when all he was doing is talking. My daughter confirms this.

What I don't want is no kids to go near my daughter for fear of reprisal from the obsessed one. At the minute my daughter is taking it quite well. The teachers say sometimes she has to tell other kids to go away though so they don't face the wrath. She shouldn't have to do that. The teachers have also had to make a new way for lunch times. They pick names from a hat because if anyone tries to sit next to my daughter, the obsessed one attacks them or shouts at them.

Anyone had anything similar? What are my options? There is only 1 class in the school so they can't just move her. I shouldn't have to move my daughter from a school she likes.

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ElfinsMum · 15/02/2022 13:32

Sorry to hear that your daughter is having to navigate this difficult situation at 5. My ten year old had something a little similar last year, a girl with not great social skills following her around in the playground, always insisting on being her partner etc.

It isn't an easy one for the school to solve unfortunately as you have seen but our school did split them up as much as possible, did some whole of class activities re body language when someone does/doesn't want to play. I had to report problems a few times, even though it was serious enough that my daughter was refusing school for a while.

Eventually my daughter lost her temper and told the girl to leave her alone. And I asked to have my daughter move classes. It got better rapidly after that.

It was a stressful time for my daughter and me tbh. I hope the school can sort it out soon.

Ithinkiminlimbo · 30/06/2022 18:14

I'm also having a similar problem, girl obsessed with mine and the parents don't seem to care.
My teen comes home everyday miserable as is ostracised from everyone else and even tho this other girl has been told straight, she continues to pester mine.
School have tried moving them about, girl continues to stalk mine and makes lies about her to make her unattractive as a friend to others.
It's making both of us sick and I hate seeing her like this as she is such a wonderful girl. She went into a new school mid year and this girl approached her as a friend and its been hell ever since, this was a year n a half ago D-:

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