My daughter is being bullied and school is doing nothing, what should I do?

[WarriorMama2013]

My daughter is 7 years old and transgender and is being bullied by one of the boys in her class.

She started attending school as herself in year 2 and other than a few unintentionally rude questions from some of the other kids in her class, they and the staff have treated her really well and given her loads of support.

But when school started up again, there was a new boy in her year and his mum was nice enough even if she asked some of the usual "are you sure this is healthy for 'him'"questions etc and there wasn't any trouble in the first week back but every day she's been miserable and has said that the new boy has been picking on her and calling her a boy and other things.

I tried to talk to her school about it but they said that they don't want to do anything that might get them in the news.

I feel so alone and have no idea what to do.

Has anyone else here ever been in a situation like this and if so, what could I do to help my daughter?

See my topic. Please record whatever they say because schools cannot be trusted. And raise awareness. If there are different years group, the school could move your daughter to a different year group...otherwise you can try a new school.

I'm new here..if you can pm me, please pm...Thanks

@NUSANottm

That’s very victim blaming response. Why should OP move their child?

I wouldn’t let it go, keep emailing/calling the school

Ask to see their policies on bullying

Say you’ll report it to Ofsted if you aren’t happy with their response- as a safeguarding issue

I am trying to help and I have asked OP to contact me so I could share my experience.

My son is in Y10. He was bullied since Y7 and he was abused. My son got emotionally detached and I found out about everything only this year when the school sent me social workers.

I made a complaint with the school and the complaint was ignored without any reason. I was told to instruct a solicitor.

I wrote several emails and they're all ignored.

I record all calls. I even have CCTV and the school made several false representations. The school never apologized about anything.

I asked for the bullying logs and the school said they lost the bullying logs, which is negligent (or even criminal).

Both my son and I are being treated like school is mafia and we are the victims. My son does not want to move school because he still has friends there. School staff even made defamatory comments about me and my son (that I recorded)

Make up your mind...I am trying to prevent OP from going through my ordeal. If you want to see my evidence, please pm me

Write to head

Write to chair of governors

Request a meeting with both

Insist action is taken

Ask for a copy of policies and quote the bits they are t following

Go to Ofsted

What other things?
Is it not just a 7 year old stating a fact?

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

What other things? Is it not just a 7 year old stating a fact?

All my son's words are being exploited against us, when possible.

In June 2021 there was an outside provider. My son spoke with one of their team and the school sent me an email saying I was bringing the school to court.

I wrote to the headteacher, the director of governance and more....

Everything is being ignored because they're acting like mafia (in my personal opinion). As I said...the bullying logs have been lost and that says it all. All evidence is gone. My son had a diary where he wrote pretty much everything.

There is even an email to the school staff where he reported the bullying and this email was acknowledged

Just to give you an idea of what my son was subjected to, this is the email he wrote in Y7:

""After having an assembly about mental health and after your lesson about reflection I have been mentally forced to open myself up to you.

BTW I don't know if you noticed XXXXXXX (pupil's name) look at me, but thats just because he thinks Im a 'dirty nonce' whatever that means.

Anyways, I don't know what you know but I have no friends (excluding my primary school friend YYYYYYY). You may think that ZZZZZZZ is my friend but he bullies WWWWW and makes jokes about me being gay.

Everyone thinks Im a paedophile/stalker and because its a group of them (people make rumours about me) Ms QQQQQ (teacher's name) believed them and every single day I don't live without several "you're gay, you're a paedo!". And in my ESB I lied. I do not have friends. I just have to block them because it won't stop and I am better than them my religion restricts me to be rude to anyone so I respect this rule"

Sorry for the offtopic...I am new here in this forum. Am I allowed to put links? How can I post photos (and other evidence)? All names of individuals will be removed

I wonder if this would help
www.nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk/about.html

@NUSANottm you are hi jacking someone else’s thread. I wouldn’t be posting photos or evidence either on a public forum.

@NUSANottm I think you need to start your own thread.

OP- have you spoken to the class teacher directly? Could they do a talk about being kind etc? That helped when my daughter was being bullied when she was 6 (we didn't have the transgender element so can't help on that bit).