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Autistic child being bullied by another SEN child

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citcatgirl45 · 22/06/2021 20:08

My son is being bullied by another boy in his year. These last few weeks he has been really nasty to him. My son is autistic and different and has to put up with other kids being mean to him and generally mocking him for his differences- he copes so well - but even though he has to put up with unkind children he also has a great group of friends and great teachers who support him. But these last few weeks a different boy in the class has started bullying him - he is a deaf child with SEN and lots of different issues and he also has an awful lot of horrible things happening at home - he has no friends and has no one to sit with at lunchtime so basically sits and follows my son and his friends the whole time. He literally mocks my child all the time and where ever he is this child is. I actually think he wants to be his friend but because of his issues he doesn't know how to express this but of course because he is so nasty my son wants him no where near him. School were brilliant with the other bullying and it has been much better but they basically are saying because of this other childs difficulties and home life there is nothing they can really do and they can't really speak to him or his family will cause trouble. I would get my son out of this school if I had my way but actually because he is not your normal run of the mill 12 yr old I do think that he would be made fun of where ever he goes and although these bullies make his school day challeneging he does have a lot of friends as well but unfortunately they are in different classes. I keep telling him next year will be different as hopefully classes will go back to being mixed but surely he shouldn't have to endure this for 5 weeks. I looked his family up on fb and I now know which family he belongs to and I have been warned by several people not to take it any further or the "family mafia" will get involved and they will make my son or us pay even more!!!! So don't know what to do!!

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Willwebebuyingnumber11 · 22/06/2021 20:10

Gosh OP this is heartbreaking. I’m really sorry, I have no advice other than to insist the school speak to the family.
I have a child with SEN and I am honestly dreading him starting school.

citcatgirl45 · 22/06/2021 20:29

@Willwebebuyingnumber11

Gosh OP this is heartbreaking. I’m really sorry, I have no advice other than to insist the school speak to the family. I have a child with SEN and I am honestly dreading him starting school.
I chose a really inclusive school with a great SEN department and they are amazing and so nurturing and understanding but the school isn't in the best area so also has a high proportion of children from the less desirable part of town. All his friends he has made at school have SEN and are the most fabulous group of fun loving unique, fun children. All schools do have bullying and its horrible to say but if your child doesn't fit the norm I think they are a target, but different schools deal with it better. I would move him in a flash but my worry is he would have to leave his friends and what happens if he didn't make new ones?. As I said his school is so inclusive there are lots of "different" children but because of this they are a target by the top dog popular kids and also a target by the kids who come from the homes where they are not shown much love or affection. We have had the conversation is it better to have a group of fantastic friends and endure the bullying or move to a school where you could still be bullied and make no friends as they are very few "unique" children!!
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