DS11 in tears every day

[SuiGeneris]

DS11 has been in tears every day after school this week. Other boys in his class call him names and continued at after school activities after the teacher out a stop to it in school.

Unhappily the boy leading all this is also the only one going to the same senior school as DS next year. Do I talk to the teacher? Do I talk to the boy's parents?

At the moment this is making life difficult for all because DS11 is very irritable at home (understandably), which stresses out DS9, then they both play up and we all get stressed. Both DS have ASD so their social skills are not great...

Absolutely speak to the school.

My son was bullied relentlessly throughout primary so we moved him as the school didn't deal with it appropriately, unfortunately he is Autistic and stands out so seems to be an easy target but that school dealt with it so much better and it did make a huge difference!

It's followed him to senior school as like yourself the bully went with him but again the support from the school has been fantastic so give them a chance to resolve it.

@SuiGeneris while the child is in primary school it is easier to raise this with the school, without your child saying I don't want you to raise it!!

Please raise it with the school- give them a chance to resolve this before it goes too far and your son looses confidence and then he will become more anxious before entering secondary school.

@SuiGeneris

DS11 has been in tears every day after school this week. Other boys in his class call him names and continued at after school activities after the teacher out a stop to it in school.

Unhappily the boy leading all this is also the only one going to the same senior school as DS next year. Do I talk to the teacher? Do I talk to the boy's parents?

At the moment this is making life difficult for all because DS11 is very irritable at home (understandably), which stresses out DS9, then they both play up and we all get stressed. Both DS have ASD so their social skills are not great...

Absolutely speak to the school. I worked in a primary school (am now in secondary) and we can only deal with what we know about. I'd start by chatting with your sons class teacher/s about your concerns and how this is impacting him at home. They should take prompt action to tackle the issue and chat with the other child and that child's parent/s.

Sorry to hear what is happening here, I hope it gets sorted swiftly. With the schools involvement the situation should be addressed well and should be a good life lesson to the other child. I've been involved in lots of cases where the schools involvement has helped all children involved to build on social skills and many have actually become friends after having had bad relationships with each other previously.

Hope all goes well. Sending hugs