Dear All,
Caution...long post!
DS is in year 9 and since he went back to school this year, has been telling me some of the students in his mentor group are commenting on his religion which are not directed to him but only in his presence. They wrongly accuse him of saying derogatory remarks about race & sexuality. There has never been any behavioural issue regarding him in school so I know he has not said these things.
The mentor teacher tells those students to stop when she sees this but unfortunately this continues during his lessons & breaktime.
DS likes to believe the whole world around him is just like him...friendly and accepting of whatever any body chooses to be. Unfortunately he is learning its not always the case. He is very able academically and teachers like him a lot so that could one of the reasons he is subjected to this behaviour.
He ignores most of it and when he does share, I ask him if he wants me to speak to his mentor and he says its bad but not too bad. I do believe in our kids growing a bit thick skin and try to ignore people like them. But the final straw was that he told me, yesterday that very group of students ran a "poll" in mentor who wanted DS to die and some clapped for it. The same teacher again said dont do it but thats how far it went.
Now will we accept these kind of comments if it was on any social media platform? Obviously not but how can it be just brushed under gentle telling off?
One more thing DS had some friends issue last year which were resolved but I fear if he will be labelled as over sensitive if I discuss this matter with the school.
I do understand that they might be saying all that as he gets upset and they get their desired response but surely someone needs to tell these students to respect people whoever they are or where will they stand in any real life situation?
Now what would you do? Am I right to think these comments come under all sorts of red flags?
Keeping in mind DS is a teenager, how do I step in so he wont feel I am taking over but before it turns into bad?
Thanks for reading that far! 😊
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Bill11 · 03/04/2021 00:07
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