Alone child

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My sons been best friends since aged 6 with another boy, they are 10 now. Now this other boy has decided to leave my son to play with another boy, this other boy is a bit of a bully. In the morning my sons wandering around himself while his so called friend is ignoring my son . The bully boy keeps jumping on my son and he’s landing in the mud. My sons to shy to speak up and tell him to stop. I know I can’t dictate who his friend plays with but his friend was only at ours last week for a sleep over. His friend and the wee bully used to fight all the time. I give his friend and his brother a lift home every day. I feel like texting his mother and telling her to find other travel arrangements for her sons. But I won’t though. Why should I when her sons completely ignoring my son at school. My son’s heartbroken and it’s hard to watch. Plus there is only 6 boys in his class.

Hi, are you close enough to talk to the mum? Or you can address it with the teacher? He is in Primary school, so it will not be unusual for you to talk to the teacher . Ask him/her to keep an eye on the relationship.

@Squashiesaremyfav

My sons been best friends since aged 6 with another boy, they are 10 now. Now this other boy has decided to leave my son to play with another boy, this other boy is a bit of a bully. In the morning my sons wandering around himself while his so called friend is ignoring my son . The bully boy keeps jumping on my son and he’s landing in the mud. My sons to shy to speak up and tell him to stop. I know I can’t dictate who his friend plays with but his friend was only at ours last week for a sleep over. His friend and the wee bully used to fight all the time. I give his friend and his brother a lift home every day. I feel like texting his mother and telling her to find other travel arrangements for her sons. But I won’t though. Why should I when her sons completely ignoring my son at school. My son’s heartbroken and it’s hard to watch. Plus there is only 6 boys in his class.

Have a chat with the class teacher about the situation. They're often best placed to monitor these things and aid in the children building good relationships with each other. Schools can be really helpful in situations like this.

So sorry to hear you're going through this, it must be heartbreaking to see your son on his own. Sending hugs. Hope the school can help you

You need to approach the school to deal with the bullying.

It really isn't your ds's friend's responsibility to deal with even if you think he should be sticking up for you ds.

If the friend used to fight with this bully regularly he may have been told by his mother or teacher or both to stay away from him.

Eitherway, focus on the school to sort the bullying.