Hi all, looking for some sage Mumsnet advice from you. My DD is 11 and in year 6. The girls in the class are quite tricky and things have been difficult since my DD’s best friends all moved away. This meant she had to fit in with a group of girls she hadn’t previously spent that much time with but was friends with.
The dynamics have been difficult for a couple of years, lots of falling out and making up, A is friends with B who plays with C who doesn’t like A, iyswim. They run hot and cold with each other. My DD tries to fit in, she tries not to get drawn into it all.
This last week one of the girls, S, has called her and asked if she’d like to come for a walk. DD has gone but then S is very unkind to her, saying she hadn’t meant to call and that she’d actually meant to ask a different friend. S has then invited another friend, E, and ignored my DD by only talking to E and making plans with her whilst making it clear she isn’t including DD.
Today they went out (against my better judgement) and when DD got home she said they’d met some other girls, and all 3 had been ‘pranking’ her until she was visibly upset. They’d then tried to persuade her that it was later than she thought to make her think she was late home. She texted me to check the time and I confirmed she wasn’t late. When she got home she said they’d started making plans to meet up that didn’t include her.
I have spoken to S’s mum and to the school to try to resolve this. S’s mum said she would speak to S and that she knows S can be unkind sometimes. School have spoken to the class about being kind to each other and also about cyber bullying. School have told me that they have not had any reports to say that DD has been behaving like the other girls.
So good people, this is bullying isn’t it? What can I do to get DD through the rest of this school year? How do I react? Do I intervene or not get involved? She’s going to a different secondary to the rest of them and I’m really hoping it will be a positive fresh start for her.