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Is My 5 year old son being bullied ?

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Beany1976 · 13/02/2021 12:53

My wee boy started school in August, he is a very sensitive child. He had a really rough time during lockdown and started to show signs of O.C.D. He is on the waiting list for CAMHS.

He had a best friend ( J) in nursery who is in the same class . His friend has now moved on and has another friend( O) he seems to prefer playing with, which I guess happens.

My concern is that we still have play dates with J, and I see J being so mean to my boy . Telling him that he's not very good at this or that. My son thinks something's really funny,J says that it's not funny. This doesn't sound like much, I realise this, however it's relentless and I see my son getting more and more confused at why J is doing this . My son is obsessed with J and seems to only want to be friends with him at school ( glutton for punishment?!) my son is bereft when he comes comes home .

My son is liked by other kids in other classes and by others from outside school . I set up play dates with these kids but nothing will stop my son from just wanting J .

I think the class he is in,sees my son as an easy target ( I've noticed in park ) as perhaps he's just too clingy and emotional in class ? I don't know as the teachers are saying there's nothing wrong even though my son is clearly not happy . He is in a mixed class of p1 and p2's and they seem to be a lot more mature . I don't want my son to lose out on friendships because he just wants J . P1 it's the start of his school life .

Am I overreacting ? Should I ask if he can change class ? I think it would be good for him, maybe not ? The kids in the other class seem to really like my son and that class is only for p1's .

I'm worried about his mental heath and how this could be affecting him .

Any suggestions or thoughts would be hugely appreciated.

Is My 5 year old son being bullied ?
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Muskox · 13/02/2021 12:58

I wouldn't call this bullying exactly. J doesn't sound like a nice boy, but if your son likes him and seeks his company then it's hard to say that J is a bully (especially when he's only 5).

But that doesn't mean you are overreacting. It's definitely worth having a chat with his teacher about this (although you should refer to it as friendship issues rather than bullying) and ask them to keep an eye on your son. You could ask to change classes (but of course they may say no).

Muskox · 13/02/2021 12:59

Personally I'd also stop asking J for play dates, although I know it's hard when your son asks for him.

HauntedPencil · 13/02/2021 14:23

I think changing class for this would be too much - I'd just not do the play dates outside school

Beany1976 · 13/02/2021 21:15

Thanks for reply's, for some reason I didn't get any notifications to say I'd had any .
You're quite right, he is only 5 and it shouldn't be named bullying per se .

I really appreciated all your comments :)

Thanks again ! Food for thought

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