You can all fuck the fuck off now ( school mum bullying)

[kerrymucklowe2020]

Just dropped DC off on school run. There's a couple of parents whom I used to walk to and from school with. I work for an agency so didn't always work. Always polite chit chat until " are you working today?" "No" them the conversation would end. Now I haven't worked since the day before lockdown. These parents no longer talk to me. I've not let it bother me all last week and this week as I know people have got other things going on etc but today it's really fucked me off. It's like I'm not good enough because I'm not working. I've even tried to time it to the minute to drop and go! Thoughts?!

You might be over thinking it.

Do they all have stellar careers to have that attitude? For all they know they could be unemployed next month.
You don’t need ‘friends’ like this.

I agree, you might be overthinking this.

Six months off school habits, who you chat to etc can change? Why would they stop talking to you for not working?

Are you projecting your Insecurities or fears onto them at all?

Maybe they just ran out of polite chit chat once they’d gotten to the point of asking you if you were working.

I don't really understand this? Did the conversation previously revolve around your jobs?

Sounds rough. School mums are not the people who should be determining your self-worth. Ignore them and spend time with those who value you. They are nobodies in the scheme of things.

Also, you never know what other people are going through. This could be about them, not you.

I'm avoiding school gate chit chat for Covid-19 reasons and it's discouraged by the school. Are you sure it's job related?

@VirginiaWolverine **
I'm avoiding school gate chit chat for Covid-19 reasons and it's discouraged by the school. Are you sure it's job related?
** No one wears a mask. Lots of people still happy to hang around not SD to chat to other parents and walk to from school in groups. I've decided for my own MH to try not let it bother me, it just really got to me today that's all

Sorry to hear that. Rejection always feels shit, and I think it's worse now when its harder to spend time with the people and activities that make us feel good. I hope that you find people who appreciate you properly.

I think you need to gain perspective.

These are parents of children at the school. You would walk to/away from the school with and chat. They were acquaintances not friends. Covid has changed things and people are being more selective with who they mix with.

This may sound harsh but perhaps you aren’t viewed as being part of their circle.

If it’s any consolation my DC has just started primary and I was hoping to get to know a few mums but they are the most unfriendly bunch. Everyone seems to already have cliques and the dreaded waiting at the gate really does feel like I’ve been thrown back to my own school playground.

Don’t let them bother you, they’re probably not giving you a second thought.