son getting bullied by a school mum

[devon2018]

Dear All,
I need HELP! I posted in the wrong section and no one replied - I hope I will get some suggestions here. My son is getting bullied by a school mum. He just did really well in his school most likely going to get good grades as well. This mum has found it hard as her son did not do well. She is going around talking to other school mums about my son. She is calling him names and making up stories. She is asking all parents to not let their children play with my son.

I have previously confronted one of the mum's but couldn't confront this woman directly. I do not like confrontations. Please advise what steps should I take? I have already spoken to school but they have done nothing in this regard.

What did school say they would do?

Tell the school one of the kids seems to be masquerading as a parent

Chances are you are suffering from this more than your son.

Sensible parents will know it isnt on that this woman is bad mouthing a child.

Also, kids play with who they want to play with.

However, keep note of everything just incase.
Hopefully she will lose interest soon but if not, if it becomes harassment, there may be grounds for a police visit.

OP is this now ? are you schools back in ?

If a school mum or anyone for that matter “bad mouthed” a child to me I’d think she was a twat.
I’d imagine most people would feel the same.

Confronting her would probably encourage her and give her more to bitch about so I wouldn’t do that but I would keep a log in case it becomes worse.

Your clearly a good mum raising a good child and other people will see that. Ignore her she will get bored and move on to something or someone else.

Are you in the UK?

Wow! Thank you so much for your reply.

1. @TheQueef School took no action just told the boys to be nice to each other.
2. @Bunnymumy Yes I am suffering more. Son seems to go quiet at times but then bounces back once his best friends are back. I fear for deeper mental health issues.
3. @BumbleBeee69 Yes it is now. School is not back but we still have zoom lessons.
4. @Icanttakethiscrapanymore - thank you so much! Yes she is a twat. No denying that. Given me sleepless nights.
5. @AskingforaBaskin Yes I am in UK

This is harassment. You need to escalate the issue with school. Ask to see their complaints procedure policy, that should do the trick. If not go through the governers and /or escalate through the Department of Education. I wouldn't let this one go.

www.gov.uk/complain-about-school/state-schools

I would confront her about it. People can’t be allowed to think doing shit like this is acceptable.

Absolutely escalate this OP.. she's cannot get away with this behaviour

Thank you once again for getting back to me. Today was our first day back to school and I noticed a hostile environment at drop off. Feels weird but my brain says don't get involved in such petty behavior. I will fight if absolutely required and not waste my time.

Although if things become worse I will be sending a letter to the governors of the school. And another letter to guardian newspaper who have published stories on this topic before.

Honestly if another mum was going round spreading rumours about a child and discouraging me from inviting that child round I'd think she was absolutely insane and avoid her. I wouldn't engage with this woman as she sounds barmy and this might aggravate her more. I would bring it up with the school though.