Sexual and physical exposure/assault

[Livingonamountain]

I’m just looking for support really. I’m not in uk - my 13 year old and others were repeatedly exposed to in an intimating manner (genitals in lockers etc and “like what you see”).... my kid exposed it and snitches get stitches so he was lashed with a belt...

I’m really not v far from uk and am British. Just struggling. Have had to pull my kid from school. As his older brother was told he would get beaten up if younger brother returned - I’ve no choice do I. And I’m paying for this... private school

Social and educational services see nothing to see here.

I feel like I’m going mad.

Where are you?! This is horrific!

How is this not seen as a concern?

Im sorry this has happened.

Although, I dont have one nice thing to say about private schools. I know families who have had extremely bad experiences with these "types" of people. They came from a lower class therefore were treated appallingly.

Thanks for the response! Can’t really say where we live as details alone are pretty outing 😂. Agree with you ref private schools - seem less answerable than state.

So disappointed that these events are happening in 2020. DS is in specialist counselling and I’m organising tutors as most schools are full 😳 and it’s going to take time to place him.

I am not entirely clear on what happened but you should go to the police.

My brother had similar issues with hazing at a private school and he was older he stood up for himself and stood up to the head/deputy and was extremely articulate in his accusations - he still ended up having to leave. The bullying was not just the kids...

It is disgraceful and a complete lack of discipline from the teaching staff

I would be involving all and sundry to be honest but it depends what other education options you have for the younger or both children - I certainly would be looking for full refunds if their safeguarding is so poor

Yes police would be a good idea.

Could NSPCC be of help?

Thanks so much for these responses. @RB68 - that’s awful. I would love to go to police but two other older kids in state exam years in same school - and all schools in my city full. Child protection services legally had to be informed by school but I separately contacted them and apparently sexual predator being seen by school counsellor will be ok.

Maybe I need to remove all three of my kids and go public - but elder two will suffer with their education.

So hard and I am massively missing being in Uk right now.....

Who lashed your 13 year old with a belt? That is assault and should be reported.

Who threatened your older son? A student? If the school are not prepared to provide adequate safeguarding to your children then you need to.

I understand the pressure of state exams but you are condoning violence to your youngest child and by brushing this under the carpet, you are allowing it to continue.

Perhaps if you post in Living Overseas, someone might be able to help with school places locally.

Hi there. I know this is a old feed but would greatly appreciate some advice or just a friendly ear. Don't feel that I could talk to any of my friends or family. My partner had been drinking most of the night and when he came downstairs this morning I braced myself because I know he can go from joking to shouting at the flip of a coin. Anyway through the course of the morning he has shouted at me, in front of our 16 month old daughter, threatened that he could shoot me in the face, told me he hates me more than anyone in the world, called me a see you next Tuesday, threatened that he would take my daughter away from me if anything happened and took a wrapper and rubbed it in my face. He then got really upset. He has bipolar disorder and is on medication but some times has the odd blips and spent over an hour telling me all about his awful childhood, how no one wanted him, everyone treats him like a failure etc. He then tells me that he needs some more support. This is despite the fact that I oversee all the bills, on my days off I look after our child all on my own so he can catch up on sleep, do all of the housework etc. Then he asked for a hug which I declined. He doesn't seem to understand that his behaviour is not okay. Now I am wondering if I have been a bit unreasonable

@Platypus2020 oh my goodness that’s terrible. You poor thing. I don’t think anyone is checking this three so if you try starting. New thread, maybe on the relationship board then you’ll get lots of help. And you have not been unreasonable at all

Thanks lovely. Did open a new thread thank you for the comment 😘