Help me get daughter to go to school

[unsure111]

Having a few issues with daughter actually going into school. Waking up most mornings she's fine, getting dressed she's fine but once we're outside the classroom. She goes pale, cries and refuses to go in she's just turned 9.

We are having problems with a couple of other kids in school, bullying, leaving her out, and 2 incidents have happened wont say what they are as they are outing but my daughter was heartbroken and embarrassed by these.

I've had meetings with the teacher and deputy head. They won't use the bullying word because they haven't saw what's happened. They just think the main one is high spirited. My daughter now has no close friends in class and doesn't know what to do at breaks and dinner which the school have been trying to help with.

I'm in the process of transferring schools and took the forms in the be done. Has anyone got any experience how long this can take? I'm at the point where I'd rather go off sick from work and keep her at home until she's into the new school? But not sure that will help? I'm not sleeping, constantly got a sick feeling in my stomach and just feel dread every night and morning.

Time changed our child's school. We had lots of sobbing along the street every day. School kept saying all was well but they were very wrong. We now have a very happy child. My only regret is not doing it two years earlier!

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@unsure111 I'm glad you have kept your daughter off as it must make her feel relief to not have anxiety in the run up to the school day, and it's good that shes also doing some school work and learning whilst at home and plus shes getting to spend some time with you while shes going through a horrible time, did you end up taking your week off aswel and how you both feeling about it all now, and how is she getting on, hope you guys have a lovely weekend and shes feeling better about herself and there will come a time whether it be in a few mo this or years she will stand up to them bit shes just not ready atm.

How did the meeting go?

Sorry thought I would give an update after all your comments.

Daughter had 2 weeks of just going in school of a morning and could either go straight to the classroom or another quiet room. And she has had a complete turn around. No can actually believe it.

She asked to go back to school for full days, she is having drawing therapy and play therapy at school which starts next week. Her anxiety seems to have disappeared for now but I know we will still have bad days. And believe it or not she's playing the 2 children in question again.

Sorry, but why are you bringing your child back to place that has traumatised her!! Think of a time when you have been traumatised, how would you feel having to physically go back to that place, then have the one person you trust force you into it.

She's reliving it everytime you bring her back!! This is awful!! Your poor daughter.

Stop bringing her to school until the process has been done and she's in another school.

@Oxfordnono12 I've not forced her to do anything. We waited till we heard back if we got a place in the school that was near us, she didn't. So she asked to go back in to school to do mornings. Fine that's what we did. Then she asked to go in back to full days. Fine she's in now full days. She has lead everything and said how she feels and what she wants and myself and the school have gone with it. She runs into the classroom without even looking at me now. She's started doing drawing therapy and therapy is starting tomorrow.