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Bullying

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Year 10 boy being bullied by girl making him physically sick

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reallyconfusedmum · 13/09/2019 23:03

Before the school hoildays my son was accused of inappropriately touching a girl, the police were called and was referred to the mash team for investigation. Long story short both the police and the mash team decided there was no case to answer and it was closed.
Girl in question then posted photos of official letters all over her social media accounts for anybody to see.
School then rang to say they were going to do a risk assesment on my son so that he was never in that situation again, i then asked for girl to have 1 to so that she or no other boy was ever put in the same situation. again school agreed but nothing was ever done and school finished for the holidays.
School started again last monday and my son is in all the same classes as the girl, who is makes inappropriate comments to him during lessons, break and lunch she has also told other girls in the year to stay away from him as he may attack them to.
My son is definitely no angel but he also is one of the most caring people i know, he has come home from school every day this week and sobbed his heart out, because of things that are being said about him.
He has lost 3 stone in weight since all this started and is not eating and making himself physically sick he has become very withdrawn and refusing to go to school and i am really at my wits end as to what to do. Do i go into school and speak to a teacher or will that make things worse. What i really feel like doing is ringing the police for harassment and giving her a taste of her own medicine but i have to be the grown up.
Sorry for the long winded post and i understand you dont know my son and could judge the whole situation different to me. But any advice would be helpful, thank you for reading x

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Soozikinzii · 13/09/2019 23:09

I would go in and speak to someone yes and ask that he is put in different groups to this girl. Is there a separate band so he won't come across her at all? It'll only be a few months really till they leave but obviously important months-with his exams and everything. If he has lost so much weight maybe you will be entitled to counselling?

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reallyconfusedmum · 13/09/2019 23:16

Thank you for your reply x

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Lara53 · 15/09/2019 18:03

The police could go round and have a ‘chat’ with this girl surely? She is making your sons life hell.

wibbletooth · 15/09/2019 18:11

Raise it as a safeguarding complaint with the school and that she is harrassing him.

Get him and the school to formally warn her to stop harrassing him and then if she continues to do so, go to the police.

Is there any way that he can record what she is doing to him? Or school cctv footage? Any friends he can trust to quietly record what is happening without drawing this to their attention?

CarolDanvers · 15/09/2019 18:17

I'd move schools if possible.

SallyWD · 15/09/2019 18:24

This is awful! If it was my son I'd want him to change school. I know a boy who moved to a different primary school because of bullying and he's now thriving he's such a happy boy and always smiling. I wouldn't want my son to stay at the school where these things were being said about him.

Hoppinggreen · 15/09/2019 18:29

He’s in Y10, not 10 years old so just starting GCSEs, not a good time to move schools
School should be addressing this OP, give them a chance to and then consider reporting to The Police.

keepingbees · 15/09/2019 18:33

I think you need a meeting with the school about this. It's not appropriate that they're in lessons together for a start.
I think she is harassing him and you should start making a log to build up a case. It's not about being adult; you're not seeking revenge you just want to safeguard your son.
It might also be worth a trip to the gp to assess his mental health and the effect this is having on him. 3 stone is a lot for a child to lose. The school nurse can become involved in monitoring his weight in school and supporting with his eating. It might be worth also getting a camhs referral.

roseunicornblower · 15/09/2019 18:33

Don't ring up school tomorrow go in and speak to head of year or even anyone higher up. This needs nipping in the bud now.

CarolDanvers · 15/09/2019 18:39

I'd still move him. He's not going to achieve when he's in this state.

Soozikinzi · 15/09/2019 18:56

Let us know how you get on with the school please . Hopefully there’s some help for him .

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reallyconfusedmum · 15/09/2019 18:58

Thank you all for your replies. We are going into school tomorrow am. I have sat with him and written down when incidents have happened.
Have filled out a bullying form for the school online.
If school do not help i will be contacting the police, from all the research i have managed to do in the last couple of sleepless nights it is harassment.
Thank you all again xx

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SallyWD · 15/09/2019 19:01

If he's only just starting GCSEs this year I'd still be very tempted to move him... Good luck OP. Hope this gets resolved.

BoneyBackJefferson · 15/09/2019 19:12

Make sure that everything is recorded, make sure that you speak to the Child Protection officer.
Make sure that you use words such as safeguarding, harassment, bullying and cyber bullying.

Do talk about the legal ramifications of this and remind the school that they have a responsibility to protect your son's physical and mental wellbeing.

Don't be scared to involve the police but be aware that this could have an affect on how the school can deal with this.

shesgrownhorns · 07/10/2019 22:03

Get him out of there asap. How awful. Good luck and keep us posted.

DeadCucumber · 07/10/2019 22:07

This sounds awful, he may need help for his mental health. I'd also see GP. Wishing him the best.

Soozikinzii · 19/10/2019 11:01

How is everything going now ? Hope things have improved for him x

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