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Should I move my daughter from her current school

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babyseven76 · 25/05/2019 08:01

My dd has only been at her current school since Feb which takes me 20-25mins to get to. I had to move her quickly has she was been bullied by both boys and girls from her previous school. I rang up the council and they told me that there's 2 space at this school which less than 5mins to get to. My dd is ok at the school and not had any issues since she started but it's just too far and been late a few times. What should I do, should I move her I'm in two minds as I don't want to seems I'm distrupting her education but also she hasn't been there that long. Anyone in the same boat or has previously in the same situation or just want offer advise, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks #oneconfusedmommaatm🤔

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Bunnybigears · 25/05/2019 08:10

Why is it too far and why are you late? If you just need to get up earlier to get her to her current school on time then I would leave her where she is. If you physically cant get her there any earlier (doesnt sound like it as you are only sometimes late) then move her.

RitaTheBeater · 25/05/2019 08:14

How old is she and how much longer will she be there?

My dc have been to a fair few schools in their time and each move is a disruption, there is no doubt about it. On the other hand, being at a local school is advantageous socially. And practically obviously.

SarahTancredi · 25/05/2019 08:14

Depends on why you are finding it so hard.

If it's a nightmare traffic route and the journey is long frustrating and you are spending ages stuck in traffic then I'd move

If it's a 25 minute walk then that sounds fine and maybe just get up a little earlier?

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babyseven76 · 25/05/2019 16:01

I had to move Dd ASAP due to the bullying and took the school they had availability at the time. 20-25mins drive to get to the school due to the traffic as there's a secondary school just off the main road, which makes traffic more difficult also. Dd is 7 and has 3 years left at primary.

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babyseven76 · 25/05/2019 16:05

Now a nearer school has now have availability in which I wouldn't have to worry about the traffic and getting her to school on time but feeling bad about moving her 😕😔

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RitaTheBeater · 25/05/2019 16:35

As the new school is really close, do you think she might already know some children who go to it? From the neighbourhood or from swimming lessons or something.

Have you been to look at the closer school? Is it any good?

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babyseven76 · 25/05/2019 22:54

RitaTheBeater, don't think so and I have also been around the school (just outside tho) and it seems ok. It is an outstanding school (ofsted rating) so shouldn't have an issue with regards to bullying etc... Would it? 🤔

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analieninblackburn · 06/06/2019 16:49

If she is happy , leave her , is there a bus service ? And being a little late is not the end of the world (if you consider the bigger picture ).

analieninblackburn · 06/06/2019 16:51

It takes me 30 minutes to get my boys to school , it's not that bad . Could be worse .

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 06/06/2019 17:38

Can't you just leave the house earlier?

What does she want to do?
Is she proper settled and happy? Has she made any friends?
Can she start the new school in September rather than just for the last few weeks of summer term?

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babyseven76 · 06/06/2019 21:24

Analieninblackburn yes there is a bus service but would have to change twice! Not sure why you would ask if there is a bus service when my dd is only 7 and I drive. Also your dc has probably been at his current school since reception so has prob been with his classmate for a few years, mine has only been with hers for just 3 months! We had moved to a different city(where we are now) a year an half ago so had no choice but to move school but was badly bullied I had to move her asap to wherever there was a place and it so happens it was miles away. Now a school closer to home as got space in her year group and really don't want to turn it down 😔

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babyseven76 · 06/06/2019 21:32

Yoursarcasmisdripping, yeah I have been leaving the house earlier and sometimes I'll get there on time and other times late depending on traffic. Not sure at that age they know what they want to do but has made a friend she talks about. I did ask the council if I put in an application would she be able to start in September but they say she would have to start straight away....

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Tavannach · 06/06/2019 21:41

I'd go for the outstanding school 5 minutes from home. You'll need to check the inside! Take your DD with you and see what she thinks. Does it cover subjects she enjoys? How's the extra curricular provision? How strict is the discipline? Would your DD respond well to that?

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babyseven76 · 06/06/2019 21:45

Thanks all for your comments, I think I will be moving her as distance and the cost on petrol is becoming too much plus don't want to miss the chance of her losing the place at the school 🙂

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babyseven76 · 06/06/2019 21:46

Tavannach I will, thank you 👍

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Tavannach · 07/06/2019 00:12

Forgot. I'm assuming you and DD will have a private talk with the Head of Year or Headteacher, so, crucially, ask about their policy on bullying. This will give you a chance to ask about pastoral support and let your DD make her feelings known.

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