School

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Hi,
Sorry this is a bit of a long one.....
I'm sure a lot of parents have experienced this but I am in a position where i don't know what to do or suggest about a bullying situation with my son.
My son is on the "autistic spectrum" but he is classed as higher functioning as he appears "normal" but struggles with certain situations, the biggest being social awareness.
At school he had 2 friends that he classed as his best friends for about 8 years (he is 11) but in recent years they grew apart. I think its probably because they are one of the popular kids and my son isn't.
He has tried to be passive and keep on their side but recenetly it ended up with my son snapping as one of them threatened him with a fight and he took up the offer.
Since the incident the two "friends" have kept bullying my son at school by turning his friends against him, saying his autism is a disease and trying to create situations.
I am quite aware that my son is no angel himself but in this instance I do believe he isn't causing the ongoing issues.
We raised the problem with the school and they were very receptive to the situation. They tried to help my son by being flexible at break times, allowing him to sit in different places in class etc so i feel they have given lots of support.
Problem is that we now found out that the bullying has been happening again over the last week, where by the other boys are trying to fight over situations. My son had to write a statement which I really struggled with as he talked about being "tired" of the situation and at home says his life is really miserable as he now has virtually no friends and that he is a "loner".
When i have talked with other parents they say that the school need to do something but when pushed they don't actually know what something is. Obviously i want to help my son and we are very supportive at home to him but i am now at a loss as a parent to know what to do or suggest.
Help :)

Your poor Ds. Do you know the boys parents? I would mention it to them. something along the lines of 'ds and otherboy haven't been getting on at school lately and some unkind things have been said that hurt ds (mention the autism comment). would you mind talking to otherboy please?' if the boys know that their mothers know what they are up to, you might find that they stop. it might also be worth calling the parents helpline from Youngminds. they deal with this kind of situation daily and so will be able to advise you. does he do clubs outside of school? this can be a fab way to make new friends that aren't in school, and often these friendships are more stable as the children don't see each other on a daily basis. where are you based OP? maybe someone can recommend a club near you? all the best x

i think you should find another environment for your child and if that happens again you should ask the police to protect your own son we never know when they will do to your son myself, i have been bullied and i tried to be strong, if he is stressed you can entertain him with fnf mods hope he is in a better mood

Teach your son how to defend himself in a bullying situation. This may include learning confident communication skills that's not my neighbor and learning about how to keep yourself safe.