I had a call from my sons school yesterday, he and another child had been unkind to a special needs child in the year below them.
DS is 7 years old, teacher said she had spoken to DS and she was pleased he had owned up to it and apologised but that she wanted to let me know, said the child was antagonising them (still absolutely no excuse at all) and DS told classmate to punch the child and then name called/teased him about the fact he wears a nappy.
I am absolutely mortified, DS is not a bully at all, in fact just a couple of months ago he gave away his favourite toy (they can take small toys in their pocket) to another child that had lost the same thing and he has done nothing like this before.
I am literally so angry but mainly disappointed in him and I'm not quite sure how to handle it. We sat down and spoke and he told me what happened to some extent but I could tell he was ashamed as he was very quiet and had avoided me the whole way home. I spoke to him about how the little boy may be feeling now and about words hurting just as much as physical etc etc. My son also has a minor disability for which he needs to wear an aid so I also spoke to him about how would he feel if someone teased him for his and he said people had.
I've made him write a note apologising, although I don't know the name of said child to had to his teacher on Monday and he has been banned from his favourite game.