School refusing to tell me how they dealt with bullying

[vickyore]

Hi all,
My autistic DS 14 is continuously being bullied at school. After reporting an incident the school will not tell me what punishment the bully has received. They say "due to data protection" I am not allowed to know this information?

Has anyone else come across this before? AIBU in wanting to know what punishment the child received? It is impossible for me to tell if sanctions are escalated due to repeated bullying and it just never stops. They just say "the matter has been dealt with in line with school policy". I don't believe them as if that was the case the bully should have been permanently excluded by now but the school will not discuss it further with me.

The school are absolutely right in not discussing another pupil with you, in exactly the same way they won't discuss your ds with any other parents.
What you need to do, is arrange a meeting, and say "I completely understand that you aren't able to discuss another pupil with me, and I don't want or need to know about him, but my concern is that I am regularly being told the matter has been dealt with, and yet again and again, this pupil is still bullying my son. what we need to resolve is what steps school are taking to ensure my ds's safety. What are you going to put in place? How can I reassure my ds he will be safe in school, when so regularly he is not? What adjustments can you make to ensure he is ?"

I have exactly the same issue with my sons school. My son has experienced bullying behaviour on many occasions. My issue is that there is no example set to the pupils, so one group of children pick on him, get a slight talking to and walk away with a shrug of the shoulders. Due to this I feel my son is now vulnerable to the same behaviour by others. He’s a quiet child who does not have a circle of friends to rally round him, therefore he is an easy target. If the school dealt with the bully’s appropriately this would send out a clear message to all pupils that this kind of behaviour is not tolerated.

I really feel for you, it is extremely upseting for parents to see their child go through this.